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[00:00:02] Speaker A: Hello. Welcome to the she Said podcast, the power of a Tribe. I'm here with my co host, Amy Tidwell, and we. Today's our first day on the podcast, which is really exciting. It's something that I've wanted to do for two years. [00:00:18] Speaker B: Here we are. [00:00:19] Speaker A: I created a Facebook page and an Instagram account two years ago with the she Said and then it just. Life has happened and I'm just now getting around to a podcast. But I'm excited to have Amy. Amy and I. [00:00:31] Speaker B: Thank you. [00:00:32] Speaker A: Yeah. We met each other 2001 as she was my nail tech. You did my nail tech? [00:00:39] Speaker B: Did your nails a few times. [00:00:41] Speaker A: I had just moved here from Boston working for TV Guide and looking for a nail tech and we. [00:00:47] Speaker B: You had the most interesting stories ever. [00:00:49] Speaker A: A fun time at TV Guide. [00:00:51] Speaker B: I knew we'd be friends for long. [00:00:52] Speaker A: Yeah. Oh, that was a fun time. That was a crazy time. But yeah, it's so funny. Your nail tech hears all the juicy stuff. [00:00:59] Speaker B: Yes, we did. [00:01:02] Speaker A: So we did that and then kind of lost touch after you stopped doing nails and I. [00:01:08] Speaker B: But then we did the New Year's Eve ball draw. Yeah. [00:01:10] Speaker A: Then I ran into. I think I ran into you again in a tour of a house. Some house tours of some kind. I don't remember what it was. It was on. We were on a bus going from house to house. Do you remember that? [00:01:23] Speaker B: No. [00:01:24] Speaker A: Yeah. It was years later and then ran into you. And then you were the president of Brookside Business association and I had a hair brain idea to drop a ball in Tulsa for New Year's. You did it five years. [00:01:38] Speaker B: And I was on the board and we made it happen. [00:01:41] Speaker A: Yeah. Reconnected. And you had just had your second baby. [00:01:44] Speaker B: Gosh, I sure did. [00:01:45] Speaker A: And he's 14. [00:01:46] Speaker B: 14. So. And at that point, when I found out I was pregnant, I stepped down from my serving my third term, which would have been my third term at bba. [00:01:57] Speaker A: Okay. So I thought you had him. I thought you brought him in a carrier to one of our meetings. [00:02:02] Speaker B: I. I did, but I think at that point I had already stepped down maybe. [00:02:05] Speaker A: Oh, and you were just helping. [00:02:07] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:02:07] Speaker A: You were just a volunteer. [00:02:08] Speaker B: I'm trying to remember. Yeah, I have brain fog. [00:02:11] Speaker A: I do too. And I do remember, though, you bringing him in in a carrier. [00:02:15] Speaker B: Yes. Yes. [00:02:16] Speaker A: So it might have been the next year and you were helping. That was all a blur. [00:02:19] Speaker B: What year did we do that? [00:02:20] Speaker A: Oh, gosh. 2010 was the first year. [00:02:25] Speaker B: Okay. Yeah. [00:02:27] Speaker A: What year was he born? [00:02:28] Speaker B: 2010. [00:02:29] Speaker A: Okay. So that was the. Yeah. Because 09. I did the first one at the Renaissance Hotel, and then we moved to Brookside and did that one down there. So I was crazy. I'll never forget. It was fun, but it was so much work. And then we moved it downtown. We did two years on Brookside and then downtown for three years, and then I was done. My volunteers were done. Lisa, we love you, but we're done. We're not doing this anymore. It's a lot of work. Plus New Year's Eve. It's just. Yeah, it's just too much. But anyway, we've kept in touch all these years. All these years over social media, probably more than anything. Kind of watched you go through different seasons of your life with your parents, aging parents and caring for them and then losing them. And I'm in that season now and just lost my mom last week. And so you're doing better than I was. I don't know. I have my mom. It's. Last night I was with my friends that I hadn't seen since October, and each time a new one came in. [00:03:31] Speaker B: Yes. [00:03:32] Speaker A: Like, it just doesn't ever end. It's hard. [00:03:34] Speaker B: No, it's very hard. [00:03:36] Speaker A: And it just. It's. There's no way to prepare for it. You think you're prepared because you've seen them through the sick phase, that you think, yeah, I'm. I'm okay. And then you're not okay. And I think you were as close to your mom as I was to mine, where they were your friends, they were more than your mom. [00:03:51] Speaker B: She's my neighbor. [00:03:52] Speaker A: Yeah, that's right. She moved next door to you. [00:03:54] Speaker B: Next door for a year. Best year ever. [00:03:57] Speaker A: I bet. [00:03:58] Speaker B: So. But, yeah, that's a hard transition. And I'm still transitioning. [00:04:03] Speaker A: Yeah. I don't know if it ever. [00:04:05] Speaker B: A lot of phases. [00:04:06] Speaker A: Yeah, I can imagine. Yeah. Like, my dad's really trying to get the memorial service scheduled, and I'm not ready. And so I keep pushing him back and he keeps trying to schedule it, and I just. I need more time, I think, before that, because I know that's going to be hard. It's just hard. And there's no. There's no answers. And everybody does. Does it differently. You know, sometimes I feel people are like, okay, yes, we get it, your mom passed away. But it's like, you don't understand. [00:04:36] Speaker B: Not everyone has the same relationship, though. [00:04:38] Speaker A: Which I've seen that I will say. [00:04:41] Speaker B: To anybody who is out there with kids and if they're able, the greatest gift my mom gave, you know, first of all, she took care of my dad for many years, was with them every day up in the nursing home. But the greatest gift she gave to us kids, which is interesting because in September, she had actually gone to an. A funeral home, picked out her casket, paid for her funeral. She even wrote her obituary because she knew one day how hard that would be. And so when she happened to, you know, have that obstruction in December, out of nowhere, um, we did not have to worry about that. And that was just something I just kept thinking, and there would have been six of us kids trying to all get along, all figure it out together, all have an opinion. My mom did it all. I mean, it was done. And that was like the greatest gift she could have given us kids, honestly. [00:05:40] Speaker A: Yeah. So, thankfully, my dad is doing a lot of that for my mom. They had already talked about what they wanted and what they were going to do, so he's. He's handled that for both of them. When he did it for her, he did it for him, too. So that's been really nice, but hard. My mom. My mom didn't like to talk about it. She didn't want to. You know, she didn't tell us anything because she just didn't want to go there. She wanted to live so badly. And I. I was telling you before we started that in the hospital, she. When the doctors came in and said, you know, it's getting close with kidney failure, and she didn't want to have dialysis, which was her only option. And dialysis is hard on anybody, but if you're 89 years old and already doing well by dialysis is really hard. And she spoke for a couple hours where she took the floor and just told us how proud she was to be our mom and how much she, you know, loved us. And. And at the very end of that conversation, she said, but I'm not ready to die. And my brother said, well, then don't. And she didn't. She wait. You know, she lasted another couple of months. And so. And even then I knew she didn't want to. She wasn't. You know, you hear a lot of people say, I was just ready. I was tired. Yeah, just let me go. She was not there yet. So that's even harder to watch when, you know, she wants it so badly because she loved being around her family. [00:06:57] Speaker B: Yep, that's my mom. [00:06:58] Speaker A: It's just hard. So I know that so many of our friends are in the same season or a lot of my friends have lost their mom years ago. So I. I feel so fortunate that I had her as long as I did. I mean, she was 89, going to be 90 in May, so to have her that long, I'm very fortunate. [00:07:16] Speaker B: Time and very fortunate. [00:07:17] Speaker A: Yeah. So many of my friends don't. They lost him years ago, so I know how lucky we are to have had them. And your mom was 86. [00:07:26] Speaker B: 86, yeah. She is missed. [00:07:29] Speaker A: I know. So bad. I know. It's hard every day just that, like, catching a whiff of her perfume or. [00:07:35] Speaker B: I know. [00:07:36] Speaker A: Set you off. Yeah. [00:07:38] Speaker B: It's hard to drive by our house, being next door, Mike. [00:07:41] Speaker A: Oh, I bet. [00:07:43] Speaker B: So. [00:07:44] Speaker A: I bet. [00:07:45] Speaker B: Get through it. [00:07:46] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:07:47] Speaker B: Somehow. [00:07:47] Speaker A: I know you do. I mean, we're all strong. We get through it, but sometimes it's like, wow, can I just go curl up and just hang out here for a while? [00:07:56] Speaker B: I probably did too much of that, but, you know, and all of too much of it hit at once. With a dad and a mom passing away that close together, I. I've checked out a lot. [00:08:10] Speaker A: I bet. [00:08:10] Speaker B: So. But this is good. This would be good for me to talk about it. Therapy. Now I'm gone to therapy. [00:08:17] Speaker A: God knows I know. I've actually thought about that. I'm like, man, there should be a therapy group for women our age that lose their moms because it's everything. Painful. Yeah. Yeah. So that's kind of. We're going to talk about all sorts of things on this podcast. We're going to talk about aging as women in the workforce, as women business owners, what we go through with life. And I don't have kids. But you have raised two boys. Are still raising them boys. [00:08:45] Speaker B: Yep. One's a senior this year and one's an eighth grader. So. Yeah. [00:08:50] Speaker A: Yeah. Talk about yourself a little bit. Tell us to everybody about you. Oh, wow. [00:08:55] Speaker B: Well, I mean. Little bit about me. I'm the baby of six kids. I turned 50 this year. [00:09:06] Speaker A: Throwing out the age. I wasn't gonna do that. [00:09:08] Speaker B: We're here. [00:09:09] Speaker A: Wow. [00:09:10] Speaker B: So my greatest desire for my 50th birthday was to have a reunion with all of my siblings. It's like I have. I don't even. I lose count, honestly, because I have, like, 38, maybe nieces and nephews counting, like, great nieces and nephews now and all that. But they all made it happen. There was just a couple that couldn't make. All my brothers and sisters were all there. So family is very important to me because that can make me cry, because that was just so great having everybody. [00:09:42] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:09:43] Speaker B: And I didn't want an Extravagant trip. I just wanted us to have a weekend together at the lake. So then my husband is a police officer and he keeps crazy hours, and I sell real estate. And that is. I mean, feel like I've got a pretty basic life, but here we are. [00:10:05] Speaker A: Your boys are. [00:10:05] Speaker B: That's graduating high school. Graduating high school. And then this year, we just tried out homeschooling for our youngest one, and we love it. He has no desire right now to go back. [00:10:19] Speaker A: And does your family all live around here? Are they in different parts of. [00:10:22] Speaker B: No, we've got, like, I do have two sisters here in the area, and then I have a brother in Arkansas, a brother in Chicago. [00:10:30] Speaker A: Okay. [00:10:30] Speaker B: So. And one in Duncan, so. [00:10:34] Speaker A: So summer close and spread out. Yeah. That's great. [00:10:37] Speaker B: They all came here for the trip, for the vacation or whatever. 50th birthday. [00:10:43] Speaker A: Yeah. That's awesome. [00:10:44] Speaker B: Yep. And then Stephen, you know, his parents are both still living and we're just. That's it. [00:10:51] Speaker A: How long have you been married? [00:10:55] Speaker B: 22 years. [00:10:56] Speaker A: Wow. [00:10:57] Speaker B: 2001. So was that 22, 23. [00:11:01] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:11:01] Speaker B: So you start to lose. [00:11:03] Speaker A: I know. [00:11:04] Speaker B: Yeah. That sounds terrible. I gotta figure that out. [00:11:06] Speaker A: So probably 24. Maybe. [00:11:08] Speaker B: Maybe. Oh, my gosh. See, a lot has happened. I'm telling you, when you. So much has happened that it's been hard to enjoy special things. It's so many dates have run together, just keeping up with my parents. [00:11:22] Speaker A: Mm. [00:11:23] Speaker B: And. And then my boss of 18 years, who was like a dad, he passed away just this, you know, last year. And so there's been a lot of loss. [00:11:38] Speaker A: But that's the crazy thing because we're sort of at that age where that starts happening. But, boy, it's hard. Yeah. I know. People lose people throughout, but it always feels like you reach a certain age and your parents and people like that start crossing away and it's not fun. Nope. And he was. Was it that he was with the real estate? [00:12:01] Speaker B: My. He was my broker. Yeah. [00:12:03] Speaker A: Okay. [00:12:04] Speaker B: Just an incredible person. I mean, a true friend. A father figure, too. I mean, just, you know, a jewel of a person. So. So intelligent, knew the business. I mean, he really taught me everything I know. And he just was a great guy, so. [00:12:22] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:12:23] Speaker B: But on a happy note, I'm a girly girl. I like makeup, hair, clothes. [00:12:31] Speaker A: That's why all those things. That's why you're sitting here. [00:12:36] Speaker B: You know, I. I'm just me a lot of everything. [00:12:41] Speaker A: Well, and that's a lot. What we're going to talk about on this podcast. We're going to. We're both people that dig a little deep to figure out what's going to work for us for skin and hair. [00:12:52] Speaker B: For sure. [00:12:52] Speaker A: Yeah. In fact, I went to your hairdresser for a while based on your recommendation. Do you still go to her? [00:12:58] Speaker B: To Katie? Katie, yeah, still go to her. [00:13:00] Speaker A: Where is she now? [00:13:01] Speaker B: Oh, actually she opened her own salon. [00:13:03] Speaker A: Oh good. [00:13:03] Speaker B: Called Fringe. So. On Brookside. It's on the back side actually of like roosters. So yeah, still go to her. I've gone to Katie for, oh my gosh, 20 years. [00:13:17] Speaker A: Yeah. So I must have gone. Started going to Robin right after I was going to her because I've been with Robin for almost that many years. [00:13:25] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:13:26] Speaker A: Long time. Yeah. Do you love your hairdresser? [00:13:29] Speaker B: Yeah, I kind of. I don't change things very. I don't change jobs. [00:13:33] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:13:34] Speaker B: Change husbands. I don't change. [00:13:37] Speaker A: Good. [00:13:37] Speaker B: Stick with what I know. [00:13:42] Speaker A: I am. I own a marketing company. I started it 25 years ago, which is crazy to me that it's been that long. I started out as more of an event marketing or I did big. I think I've done every non profit gala in this town. [00:13:58] Speaker B: Yeah, it was fascinating to me when. [00:14:00] Speaker A: You would tell me things so fun. But I kind of got too old for that business because it's hard to run your climbing ladder ladders and draping fabric on a. In a convention center. So I kind of got out of the event marketing and really just stuck with marketing. And then when digital marketing really took off in 2009, I opened a division of that and that's what I really mainly do now, which is really fun. Not married. Didn't be bothered to have a husband. [00:14:27] Speaker B: You were too busy. [00:14:28] Speaker A: I was loving life. Never would have fit that in. No, it was too much fun not having that. So didn't really want kids. So it didn't make sense to be stuck with someone I probably would be mad at 24 hours a day. So I dated a lot but never didn't really make that commitment. So no kids, no husband, but have a really wonderful life and tons of friends. And I've always been that girl that always had a circle, really tight circle of friends. And I always bring them together and then introduce them to other circles. And so it's been really fun to just see that whole dynamic of this big group of girls that just. No cattiness, no drama. Yeah. So I've had a girls night out forever. And when I bring people to my house, I always bring different groups of people so they meet each other and so that's been really fun. So that's been kind of something that prompted me with this is there's such a tribe of girls that are great to support you. And I think about, you know, all the text messages, even, you know, last week with my mom, of just rolling in all day long, just checking on me and making sure I was okay. And so that's what I, you know, appreciate about life. That women can be supporters of each other and actually support one another and be there and not be jealous and. [00:15:47] Speaker B: And it's sad because I feel like so often girls don't get to that point until they're much older. [00:15:54] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:15:54] Speaker B: And I see that so much in this younger generation. It's a whole sense of cattiness that, like, you thought there was cattiness back in 1992, but no, it is nothing like what these kids experience these days. [00:16:08] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:16:09] Speaker B: A next level. So you do. They really can have no idea what great relationships look like, like, until much later in life. [00:16:20] Speaker A: So, yeah, it's fun too to know you've got that support system. So we're going to talk about all that we're going to. We might bring friends in, be on the guest on our podcast with us. [00:16:32] Speaker B: Fun. [00:16:32] Speaker A: Yeah. Talk about the latest laser that we had done on our face. I be great. Got a long list of those. [00:16:39] Speaker B: I need to have a laser then. It's been a long time. I keep up with Botox, I'm not going to lie. But I haven't had a laser in a long time. [00:16:47] Speaker A: I've done them all. I did the morpheus 8. Have you ever done that one? [00:16:51] Speaker B: No. Would love to. [00:16:53] Speaker A: I got a girl, okay. One of my clients, Genetic clinic. [00:16:57] Speaker B: Look at me afterwards. [00:16:59] Speaker A: It's, you know, I respond negatively to that stuff. I'm. I'm the girl that. The nurses, I send them a picture and go, is this normal? And they write back and go, no, that's not normal. [00:17:09] Speaker B: Oh, my Lord. [00:17:09] Speaker A: I always have, like, crazy reactions, like. [00:17:11] Speaker B: Did you sign the waiver? [00:17:13] Speaker A: They make sure I sign the waiver. But. But Morpheus 8, they don't. You don't really. Most people, you're red for an hour or two and it goes away. But it's. It's painful, but it works. Well, I gotta suffer to be beautiful sometimes. You do. [00:17:27] Speaker B: My mom always said, you gotta suffer to be beautiful. [00:17:30] Speaker A: Yeah. And they'll actually. They also have form of V, which is for your vaginal health, so for incontinence and all that stuff. [00:17:38] Speaker B: So I'm not wetting my pants yet. [00:17:40] Speaker A: Well, if you want me start, she can hook you up. [00:17:45] Speaker B: You're like, I got a girl. [00:17:47] Speaker A: I got a girl for that. So we get that. We're going to talk about that. [00:17:52] Speaker B: Had a girl for a wedding. Your pants. [00:17:54] Speaker A: So there's. That's going to be major topic, probably because I'm always trying something different. We were just talking before we went on the air about castor oil. That's like Amy does it. I've been looking into it. [00:18:06] Speaker B: Oh, quit looking and just do it. Yeah, you won't regret it. I just put them in glass bottles. I got those brown glass bottles that have just pumps and you get them from Amazon and then just fill them up with castor oil. So. And then like I said, I had even put some primrose oil in it. I can show you what I got on my Amazon that I put in it, because you can also. It can just add a little more moisture. Some of it helps more with brown spots or whatever. But this winter, I have not been, I was telling you, not as faithful with it because I don't like the feeling of grease on my skin and on pants. It just drives me crazy. But over the summer, I mean, it would be two, three times a day because it sat on my patio. I mean, I love to be outside. I would have. I would slather it on all the time. And I cannot tell you how much it helped. Just my knees. You know, you start noticing a little bit of that crepey skin on your knees, and I'm telling you right now, it changed it completely. [00:19:08] Speaker A: Isn't that crazy? [00:19:09] Speaker B: Yeah, it is. I highly suggest it just go to natural grocers or whatever. Just make sure it's in a glass bottle when you get it. [00:19:17] Speaker A: Now, why is that? [00:19:18] Speaker B: Because you don't want the plastics leachy. [00:19:20] Speaker A: Oh, leachy, yeah. So that's the latest. [00:19:23] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:19:24] Speaker A: No plastics. [00:19:25] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:19:25] Speaker A: Have you ever had any of that testing done for toxins in your body? [00:19:30] Speaker B: No, but I did just go do a whole lot of blood work this week, actually. Just like blood work to just kind of check on me and see how I'm doing and things like that. So. But no, I've never had. [00:19:42] Speaker A: I had it success. It's scary. [00:19:44] Speaker B: That does terrify me. [00:19:46] Speaker A: It's scary. Literally. [00:19:47] Speaker B: I'm like, I don't. And I don't even know like, what then. What? [00:19:51] Speaker A: Well, that's. That's the tricky part. You can do a detox of like a whole long list of supplements, but it's a process and it has to be done slowly. Because you have to get them out slowly. But it's just so crazy because I had it done last year. You know, I had a cancer survivor, eight years. And so that's trying to feel better. Like, chemo, it saved my life, but it also destroys your body. And so trying to do all the things to feel better. And I'm always searching. And so I just thought, man, what is. Is there chemo left? You know, because they say the metals and all the stuff from the chemo settle into everything. And, you know, the magic is seven years. That's when your cell turnover supposedly happens and you're supposed to get back to normal, whatever normal is. I don't know what that is because I don't feel it yet. But so I did a toxin test. And then you sit there and go over all of the toxins in your body, like Purell, at a high level. From the slimy stuff that's in Purell. Well, I live with Purell on my hands. [00:21:01] Speaker B: Really? [00:21:01] Speaker A: Yeah. And so that number was really high. And she's like, stop using Purell stuff. That makes it feel slimy on your hands. That's the toxic part of it. Yeah. So she's reading all this stuff going, that's from like, I bought fresh vegetables in Reese's in the plastic bags that you steam them in the microwave. [00:21:21] Speaker B: Oh, no. We don't even have a microwave in our house. [00:21:24] Speaker A: Can't do that. [00:21:24] Speaker B: We do not microwave at all. And it has maybe been seven to ten years. [00:21:29] Speaker A: Oh, wow. [00:21:30] Speaker B: No, we have not. My kids don't. Matter of fact, they have a microwave at school. And last year, I think it was sixth grade, maybe I sent something with Ty for lunch and he wanted to go try to heat it up, and he did not know how to. And he about burned the cap in the microwave. You did not know. No, we don't. We have never. Ty's never even grown up with a microwave, so he doesn't even know how to use it. You know, we have one in our rv, but we don't. Would never use it to heat up vegetables or anything like that. [00:22:04] Speaker A: Yeah, don't do that. Don't start. [00:22:06] Speaker B: No, we not. [00:22:07] Speaker A: Good for you. [00:22:08] Speaker B: No, no, you don't want to do that. [00:22:09] Speaker A: Well, there was one number that was porn and plastics, which I use glass. I don't use plastic. I don't drink out of plastic. And so she kept saying, what? You eat a lot of corn? I don't eat corn. I haven't had corn in 25 years. She said, you must eat a lot of corn chips. Nope, don't do that. Haven't had corn chips. And only thing I can figure out, and I might be crazy, but my. I had a fire at my house six years ago, five years ago, and I had come home, I was doing a girls night out, and I'd come home from the grocery store and I bought a bag of corn chips. And I have one of those big Tupperware bowls, like the hard acrylic Tupperware bowls that I was going to take and put the chips in. And when I came in, I put all my grocery bags on the side, but next to my stovetop. And then I was on the other side of the kitchen making guacamole. My dogs wanted to go outside. I took them outside. I barely got outside. Fire alarm or the fire alarm company calls me and say, we have a fire alarm in your dining room going off. I was like, I was just in my house. The. When. I guess when I shut the door to go outside, it knocked the bag of chips with the bowl. And I. When I put the. This only thing I can figure out, when I went to put the sacks on the next to the stove, I hit the burner on. And then when I went outside, it fell on the stove. And so I ran back in my house. My house is full of smoke of that burning. And I went in there and I thought to turn the oven or the stovetop off, trying to find my fire extinguisher. So I'm inhaling all of this smoke, a lot of it. And then I ran back outside, got some air, ran back in three times. Finally the firemen were. I knew he had already called the fire engine because I was on the phone with him. I'm like, oh, my gosh. He said, do you need fire? And I said, yes. Anyway, so the only thing I can think of is me going back in there. I inhaled all the corn chip smoke and the plastic from that bowl, but I have high toxins of that in my body. And so it's little things like that. [00:24:10] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:24:11] Speaker A: And I. I was. I was struggling when the firemen were there, and I kept. They kept, you know, worrying about my house and fire. I had the fire out before they got there. But the smoke. Trying to get the smoke out of my house and all that. Yeah, yeah. So I had corn chip inhalation. And they kept saying, I think they would. They finally looked at me, they said, are you okay? And I'm like, I'm not sure. Got. My lungs are on fire. And they said, well, as long as you're standing, you're okay. Your lungs will filter that out. But if you start getting lightheaded, you know, call 91 1. Yeah, it was crazy. And I never did, but. And it took. It took days for my lungs to stop burning. But that's the only thing I can think of because I don't eat corn chips. Just the plastics alone and the corn from the. [00:24:52] Speaker B: You know, that was a. I had. One of our homeschool lessons I did was I had him study on the difference of filter filtrations, like MERV 8, MERV 10, MERV 13 air filters that you would put in your air conditioning system. And so then I had him, Which I've always kept these in my house, but I wanted to add another one. And, you know, a lot of people spend hundreds and hundreds of dollars on filtration, and they're actually super loud and kind of annoying sometimes. But you can take a box fan and you can tape, like, a MERV 1320 by 20 filter to the very back of it and set it in your living room. Or I like to keep one now, like, it kind of in the laundry room where I fold clothes, because so much still, so much dust comes out of your clothes when you take them out of the dryer. I feel like it does if. If you're standing in the sunlight. [00:25:45] Speaker A: Yeah, you can see it. Yeah, yeah. [00:25:47] Speaker B: And when that fan is on, everything just goes straight to it. So. And like, a MERV 13 will take care of viruses and bacteria and mold spores that are in the air. So I have several of those just kind of throughout our house. And so that gave us an opportunity to talk about all these different, you know, contaminants that are out there. And so, yeah, the box fan of the filter 20 by 20 is, like, the most inexpensive but easy fix for just having the air throughout the whole. Yes, totally. [00:26:20] Speaker A: So it's a good idea. [00:26:21] Speaker B: And then stop that microwave. Did you unplug yours? [00:26:24] Speaker A: Oh, yeah, yeah. [00:26:26] Speaker B: So, yeah, yeah. [00:26:27] Speaker A: No, and I had. And I hadn't done that. You know, I've just thinking about things I've done over the years, and so them like, well, that toxin still in there, she goes. Yeah. It doesn't leave on its own. You gotta detox. And so it's scary. It's to realize how much you breathe in that you don't even think about. [00:26:48] Speaker B: Yeah, don't get me started on that. [00:26:50] Speaker A: I know. There's a whole. Well, I think about, like, Purell. [00:26:54] Speaker B: Other podcast. [00:26:55] Speaker A: I think about Purell when you go out to the cancer center, Every station has. That was my job as a volunteer, to fill those bottles up. Every nurse in every hospital room hits it when they come in and they hit it when they go out. So you think about nurses and the level of toxins in their body. Can you imagine? [00:27:13] Speaker B: No. [00:27:13] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:27:14] Speaker B: You know, it's funny because I, you know, my biggest fallout, my biggest vice in life is a Dr. Pepper. Like, I love a Dr. Pepper, but I will. Like, before I came here, I had drank a 44 ounce cup of water. It's all distilled water. We distill our own. I think we've maybe touched on that before. And I always make sure we have cases of bottled water available for emergencies. And I get it. Sometimes the kids, somebody needs to run out the door and have a bottled water for me. When I drink a bottled water, which is really weird to me, I get like a kind of an acidic feel, like almost like an acid reflux sensation in my chest. And I'm like, man, why is that? Because of the plastics that are in it. I don't know. I've never put my finger on it. But it. There's something that just makes me uncomfortable, like. But I've drank that water and so much of it. The purest of pure water that you can get. [00:28:12] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:28:13] Speaker B: Truly is distilled water. [00:28:14] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:28:15] Speaker B: Nursery water, dialysis water, iv. What? Like, I mean, that's what they use. Why. Why are we not using that in our own body? I mean, you can get minerals from your Celtic salt or whatever. [00:28:28] Speaker A: Right. [00:28:29] Speaker B: So anyways, it's just a very interesting. [00:28:31] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:28:31] Speaker B: We got a lot to talk about. [00:28:33] Speaker A: We do. This is going to turn into a really interesting one because it's. Which is, you know, why I wanted to do this with you because I know you and I think a lot alike on a lot of things and we've been through in two different paths, but a lot of the same thought processes. And so, yeah, I have a pure filter here in the office. I won't drink any water. I don't drink bottled water. I drink it out of a filtration system that takes all that out. So it is like distilled water because there is so much junk in water. And I would also like to note that we are not doctors. This is what our own research has. We've done. [00:29:11] Speaker B: This is not medical advice. [00:29:14] Speaker A: It's the Amy Lisa advice based on life journeys that we have a lot of common sense. [00:29:20] Speaker B: Yeah, I will say that. [00:29:21] Speaker A: Well, and I also, you know, we talked about before we started, we actually research and we look into what. What is out there and what we can do and can't do. And. Yeah, you learn. And especially, like with me, I. We. I had Amy on my podcast, my cancer podcast, for juicing, because I was juicing so much about that a long time ago. [00:29:41] Speaker B: I've done this before. Yeah, that's right. [00:29:43] Speaker A: My office was downtown because I was juicing after going through chemotherapy, just trying to detox and get all that out of my system and feel better. And. And so I knew that she was on that same path of wellness and healthy and doing the right thing. [00:30:01] Speaker B: I'm not perfect. I mean, well, you will still see me eating my chicken tenders and gravy and, you know, drinking a doctor pen and drinking my doctor Pepsi. [00:30:11] Speaker A: Mine's a Diet Pepsi. [00:30:12] Speaker B: Yeah, I did get away from that. You know, that's. Used that. Used to. It was all. I would have Diet Coke, Diet Pepsi. Like, that was my. That when Covid came around and I did lose my smell for about three years. Like it. And it's still not perfect. My. There are things that I do not smell at all. And it's so strange. [00:30:31] Speaker A: You got it that first year when it first came here. [00:30:35] Speaker B: What's interesting is I got it before they had actually put a name on it. I got it that month. [00:30:41] Speaker A: They hadn't. [00:30:42] Speaker B: Right before it had not come out. And I was sitting at a women's conference at church. I won't ever forget. And I remember, like, why are all these people coughing around me? Like, the whole auditorium. This is not at church, on the move. Covid was not even on the radar yet. Okay. But it was like, you know, a couple weeks later, it was happening. It was now. And I remember I was like, okay, I look dramatic, but I'm going to cover my face because there are way too many people coughing in this place. And sure enough, I got really sick with bronchitis. That was what the doctor said I had said I had bronchitis, which wouldn't be abnormal for me, I would say. My husband and I both, even our kids kind of that time of year, we always got bronchitis. Like, they can go back and still find old medicine bottles from 2012 that says, you know, it was for my bronchitis and. Or cedar fever or, you know, things like that. Well, I think is, though I lost my. My smell, and it was so bad, I could not. There was always this rogue cigarette smell. I would wake up thinking someone was smoking in my house all the time. Like, it drove my husband crazy. But now, like, I do have a Lot of my taste back. That's not a problem really. But it altered my. So back to Diet Pepsi. Diet. It changed my taste so bad, it was like I could not even. It changed it to a complete crazy chemicals. Like, I could taste the deep chemicals in the Diet Coke or Diet Pepsi. [00:32:10] Speaker A: Oh. [00:32:11] Speaker B: Could not stand drinking it. And what was funny is I noticed I started going, like, to restaurants or whatever. Sonic. And they would be out of Dr. Pepper. Like, that was the only thing I could drink. And I used to hate Dr. Pepper. And suddenly I was like, what? I go places and people are out of Dr. Pepper. More people drinking Dr. Pepper and they're like, yeah. I don't know what the deal is. I really think it is because so many people's taste changed. And there was something. I call it the silver lining. It gave me a heightened sense of being able to taste chemicals. Things I probably shouldn't be putting in my body. [00:32:50] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:32:51] Speaker B: And that I just looked. I'm like, this is my silver lining. I'm good. I'll be able to smell when something, you know, crazy is happening. But that's how I quit. [00:33:03] Speaker A: You don't drink it at all? [00:33:04] Speaker B: No. [00:33:04] Speaker A: Oh, Diet Coke or diet. [00:33:06] Speaker B: Or Diet Pepsi. I don't drink any of the diet stuff. I mean, I quit cold turkey. You wouldn't have found me without having one of those in my hand. And it was so bad, I stopped cold turkey. There was no desire to ever have it again. So weird. [00:33:21] Speaker A: That is weird because I. I did that with chemo. I was drinking Diet Coke and I could taste all the chemicals and I can't even think of a Diet Coke. Like, the thought of a Diet Coke just. [00:33:31] Speaker B: I could sense me. Ambidextrous Coke. Diet Pepsi. I'm good. But, yeah, no, it's really interesting. So. And I'm on, like, some anisomia, however you say it group on Facebook. And I mean, there's still people suffering with this whole taste and smell, but I never let it. I put mine ever matter on that. I really focus on that silver lining. [00:33:52] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:33:53] Speaker B: Had to. Or there was no way I could get. [00:33:55] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:33:55] Speaker B: It would have driven me crazy. [00:33:57] Speaker A: I've never gotten Covid. [00:33:59] Speaker B: Yeah. That's it. [00:34:00] Speaker A: Well. [00:34:00] Speaker B: And I've never taken a test. [00:34:02] Speaker A: Okay. [00:34:02] Speaker B: So I've never been diagnosed with COVID Right. Officially. But I never would take a test. So I never, ever. [00:34:13] Speaker A: Yeah. So I've just never been sick since. [00:34:16] Speaker B: It's awesome. [00:34:17] Speaker A: I got sick the February after I finished chemo in December. And I know it was just because my immune system Was down and I got a horrible upper respiratory. I had to have an inhaler. It was awful. But it wasn't Covid. It was way before. It was years before COVID And I have never been sick since. Of any kind. I know. Where's wood? So thankfully. So I know I've never had it just because I've never. [00:34:41] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:34:41] Speaker A: Never been sick since then. I'm gonna jinx myself, unfortunately. I know I'm gonna be mad, but. [00:34:47] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:34:47] Speaker A: So funny about the flavor, the taste. Not getting. Because I've heard that. And people's hair changed. [00:34:53] Speaker B: Yeah. I did go drastically change. But that wasn't until later. But also, I don't know if that was an age thing. I don't ever. I'm not one to give Covid a whole lot, lot of credit. [00:35:03] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:35:04] Speaker B: But I do know something made me lose myself for a long time. And somebody was smoking in my house overnight. [00:35:11] Speaker A: She couldn't find it, but they were in there. [00:35:13] Speaker B: Find that sucker. But somebody was smoking in there. [00:35:17] Speaker A: It's so funny. Well, I started taking a natural GLP one that. It get. Pumps up your GLP one. Oh, gosh. How's. What. When did I start that? Last fall. And I'm a huge coffee drinker. I love coffee. I love. I drink coffee. You can't. No, I drink it. Really? Oh, my gosh. I love. Like I'm a coffee snob. I do it for flavor. I don't need caffeine. And I started taking this natural GLP1. I. And it literally the first day. No, I have not had a drop of coffee since then. And I love coffee. Yeah. But I just. There's zero. Zero. It took the craving away for Coff. And I was that girl that had two cups every morning. And I couldn't wait. It was a. It was a comfort thing for me. I love to sit and drink coffee. [00:36:09] Speaker B: Habit. [00:36:09] Speaker A: My mom loved it when I. Because I'd go over, spend Friday with them and then spend the night. And my dad would get up Saturday and go run their errands. And I would. My mom and I would sit there and she's never had coffee. She loves the smell, but she doesn't drink it. And she told me probably six months before she ended up in the hospital that her favorite thing was Saturday morning. Me drinking coffee, sitting there, visiting with her. And I just. That's so. That's the memory of coffee. It's a good memory. But I had literally had not had a cup since probably six months now. [00:36:40] Speaker B: Isn't that crazy? [00:36:41] Speaker A: Yeah. And I Had the. One of my clients was over here yesterday and they go immediately to my kitchen and in my office and start making coffee. And I'm like, I just. I smell it and I love the smell, but I0 desire to drink it. So it's just so funny how your body changes based on it is, you know, whatever it is that you put in it. [00:36:59] Speaker B: And you know, I'm sitting here. Rewind to the castor oil. And the reason why this came to me is I've always had this habit of rubbing my thumb right here because I had this. You can barely see like maybe a little mark of it. You see that little dot? So. Right in the crease of my thumb. For anybody that obviously can't see us. I had this little dry sore spot. You would almost think it maybe it was a seed wart or something. Like maybe a callus. It would. That thing would split open. It was gotten to a point where it's worrisome. I had. I have gone to the dermatologist and asked them about it. They've looked at it for at least 10 years. They've given me prescription creams to put on it. Nothing would touch. Wasn't until recently that I realized that thing is 100% smooth. And I promise you, it is from me using castor oil every day on my hands. And it has gotten rid of this issue that I have. So. And also my son had warts when he tried wrestling on his knees. I had him start doing that on it. Gone. [00:38:04] Speaker A: Really. [00:38:05] Speaker B: So I mean there's. Yeah. [00:38:07] Speaker A: A lot of. [00:38:07] Speaker B: Yeah. So hopefully people can keep track with my. Our brains going. But. Oh, ping pong. Ping pong. [00:38:13] Speaker A: That's what'll make a fun. Gotta keep track of it. That's interesting though. Now I'm definitely gonna. [00:38:18] Speaker B: As smooth as ever. Gone. [00:38:22] Speaker A: You still have the habit of. [00:38:23] Speaker B: I still have the habit of touching it because it was always there dry. [00:38:26] Speaker A: So you would just. Yeah. Mess with it. [00:38:27] Speaker B: And that's what made me just think of it. I'm like, oh, I gotta tell her about the castor oil. [00:38:31] Speaker A: Well, mine's on order. It's coming. [00:38:33] Speaker B: Go get it. I go to natural grocers. Unless you ordered it from some other company. [00:38:38] Speaker A: I did. Can't think of the name of. It was a natural. [00:38:41] Speaker B: Yeah. There. I had just ordered some black seed oil from company called Blessed. I'll have to look it up, but I know they're really well respected. Blessed or. I don't know. I'll find out. [00:38:54] Speaker A: Okay. [00:38:56] Speaker B: Yeah. Get on our cast royal cake. [00:38:59] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:38:59] Speaker B: I'M ready to slather my body in it every day. [00:39:02] Speaker A: Summertime. Okay, well, that's kind of a wrap, I think, for us today. But this is just an example of what you're going to get. Probably a hodgepodge of thoughts and what we're going through in life at the moment. But if you guys have any feedback or if you want to. [00:39:18] Speaker B: Ideas. [00:39:19] Speaker A: Ideas on what we want to talk about. We've probably experienced it by. Or tried it in some form. [00:39:25] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:39:25] Speaker A: We can give you the inside scoop on it. [00:39:28] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:39:29] Speaker A: So we'll be back here once a week, so let's go for it. Yeah. [00:39:34] Speaker B: It'll be not on my radar, for things were happening this year for me. [00:39:40] Speaker A: I know. It's so funny because when I decide it's been a year, two years in my head, so. [00:39:45] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:39:45] Speaker A: And then now that, you know, I. I've got free time now from my mom caring for her, it's like I was ready to. To dive in. So you're doing it. Here we are. We'll be here weekly. Yeah. You're coming along. You're the perfect person. It's going to be fun. [00:40:04] Speaker B: Hope I don't put my foot in. [00:40:05] Speaker A: My mouth and I have an edit. But we'll be here once a week. You can. You'll be able to find this wherever you get your podcast. We'll. We'll put a link on the Facebook page. We have a page called she Said and an Instagram account called she said, and it's spelled S H E and then said is sedan. So if you want to follow us, and then we'll. You'll have to ask to be invited to the Facebook page. But the Instagram is open to the public, so you can follow us there and see. [00:40:41] Speaker B: I didn't even know this. [00:40:42] Speaker A: Yeah. All right. I made you an admin yesterday or the other day. [00:40:47] Speaker B: Yeah, I gotta check on that. [00:40:50] Speaker A: All right, thanks. We'll see you next week. [00:40:51] Speaker B: All right, bye.