Episode Transcript
[00:00:01] Speaker A: Okay. Welcome back to the she Said podcast. We're on episode four.
[00:00:05] Speaker B: Good morning. We've made it four whole episodes.
[00:00:09] Speaker A: Time is flying.
[00:00:10] Speaker B: Yes.
[00:00:11] Speaker A: Rhodium four.
[00:00:11] Speaker B: So what'd you do this weekend?
[00:00:13] Speaker A: No, what'd you do this weekend?
[00:00:14] Speaker B: No. Would you.
We had prom.
You know, senior prom. It was. I mean, it went really well. I made his. Some people know that, just know me from Facebook. I made floral pocket boutonniere. So, I mean. Yeah. So instead of them wearing a pocket square, you actually make, like.
It's a pocket square of flowers, basically. And you wrap flowers. Just some cardboard that kind of fits in the pocket. And it just looks really good because you can tie in so many colors from, you know, whatever you need to be for prom this year we bought a suit instead of renting a suit. Made our dollars work better for us.
[00:00:51] Speaker A: Well, good idea, because he'll probably wear suits, you know, more now that he's getting out of high school.
[00:00:56] Speaker B: Totally. So that was it. I mean, they have a pretty. They have a pretty quiet prom there. It wasn't just like some giant afterparty or any like that. So I was going to ask, what.
[00:01:05] Speaker A: Does prom look like these days? It's been a long time.
[00:01:08] Speaker B: Just kind of depends on where you go to school, too. So they had a good time.
[00:01:12] Speaker A: They go to dinner time?
[00:01:14] Speaker B: Yes. They went over to Waterfront. It was a big group of them. And they went to Waterfront, and then they then go to prom. They got to be there by a certain time.
[00:01:22] Speaker A: Okay.
[00:01:22] Speaker B: And then that's, like, over at 11. But, I mean, he came home. He chose to not go to a prom party, so we're not upset about those things.
[00:01:30] Speaker A: Never leave anything good.
[00:01:31] Speaker B: I will still always say nothing good happens after midnight.
[00:01:34] Speaker A: My dad always said that, too.
[00:01:36] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:01:36] Speaker A: There.
[00:01:36] Speaker B: That's the truth.
[00:01:37] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:01:38] Speaker B: So anyways, that was about our weekend. We didn't. It was just kind of cold, right?
[00:01:42] Speaker A: Yeah, it was freezing.
[00:01:43] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:01:44] Speaker A: And rainy.
[00:01:45] Speaker B: No, we didn't do anything. What about your weekend?
[00:01:48] Speaker A: My weekend was my mother's memorial service, which was not fun. Not a weekend.
[00:01:54] Speaker B: No.
[00:01:54] Speaker A: I'm already kind of.
[00:01:55] Speaker B: How are you doing?
[00:01:55] Speaker A: Not good. But I was good. That's so crazy how it just hit you.
[00:01:59] Speaker B: It's hard.
[00:02:00] Speaker A: Yeah, it was. It actually was. It was good. I mean, it's. It does. You know, you always hear funerals and memorial services are the closure, and they really are closure. They don't make it better. They just change your mindset on it.
So it was. I can't believe I'm already crying.
[00:02:17] Speaker B: You have to start moving forward at that point, it's like, okay, now what?
[00:02:21] Speaker A: It does make you feel different. It's not better, it's not worse, it's different. It was a lovely service. I think the thing that stood out for me the most was for people that showed up. It's crazy, you know, you. I don't think I'm that good of a person. Like, I don't feel like I question your.
[00:02:38] Speaker B: It does make you question, doesn't it?
[00:02:40] Speaker A: I'm like, wow, that's so crazy. I mean, they drove. It was in Muskogee, which isn't that far. It's 45 minutes from here, but it's still a drive. And it was raining and cold. And so to have an aisle of friends. And then I had a roommate from college, or she wanted a roommate. She was just a good friend, drive in. Her and her husband texted me and said, we'll see you at 1:00. I'm like, what? They drove from Kansas City that morning, five hours or four, I guess, and turn around, drove back.
[00:03:04] Speaker B: Isn't that amazing?
[00:03:05] Speaker A: Yeah.
So I mean that again. Friendships mean everything. And the fact that I had so many show up for me that day really did. It calmed me. I guess it was good for my soul just because I had. They know me so well and, you know, it was just a comfort there. So they. I don't know that they will ever know how much I appreciated that. But I mean, you know, grief is hard. It's just.
[00:03:28] Speaker B: It is no fun. And you aren't covered in flowers in here.
[00:03:31] Speaker A: Yeah. I had so many friends come by last week that just wanted to come by and it all brought flowers.
So every time, you know, a new person shows up, you cry again. I think I cried every day last week. Just.
[00:03:43] Speaker B: It's exhausting kindness.
[00:03:45] Speaker A: It is exhausting. I. I actually wrote something down. I gotta find it. I was making some notes on.
[00:03:50] Speaker B: It is.
[00:03:50] Speaker A: It's. There's a. There's a grief fog that's actually a. A known thing. And it's just the grief, the pain, the sorrow and the exhaustion, it does give you grief fog. And it's. It's true. I just remembered, you know, people calling me as I was driving back to Tulsa that evening. And the. The one question they asked me is, you know, how are you? Are you just exhausted? I'm like, I am wiped out. Like, there is such a mental exhaustion that comes with it that your body just follows. And I actually slept the next day until 9:30. I get up at 4 and 5 every day. And I was out until 9:30. And I don't know if it was just a relief of all of it.
[00:04:29] Speaker B: Or sadness too, though. I think it really depression because I really fell in that. And I could still easily fall into it because now I think I've just kind of suppressed, try to suppress. I've never gone to get counseling over it or anything. It was just a lot at once. So, you know, losing your mom and your dad and I was angry. Oh, I bet I'm still so angry. So I. I think me forcing myself to get up has helped. And this is really kind of new. I mean, this has gone on a long time for me. Sometimes people rebound so much more quickly and I'm just like, how? How? Tell me how.
[00:05:10] Speaker A: And I think that, I mean, everybody's grief is different. And there's no right or wrong way to grieve. There's only your way. And so everybody grieves in a different level. And I'm go. You know, there are those stages of grief. And mine was anger. The morning of, like, I was driving over there after my. After he passed away overnight. And I was mad. And you know, you're just like, I just kept hitting my thighs. Driving in the car was so mad. And then, I mean, you just go through all the stages.
I'm in a stage of, oh my gosh, I can't believe I'm crying.
I'm in the stage of disbelief. Like it doesn't seem real now. There's just no way she's not here. So it's that whole. You just kind of go through all.
[00:05:51] Speaker B: Of them all the time.
[00:05:53] Speaker A: Isn't that crazy that it is. When I remember laughing, the first time I laughed, I felt guilty. And then I was like, it's okay to laugh. It doesn't take away from my grief. It's just your body, you know, readjusting. It's okay. But you do feel. You do feel guilty.
[00:06:11] Speaker B: You know, it's funny because when my mom had passed away, I don't even know how this obituary picture got mixed up with whatever was sent to the paper. She would have just killed. Because it was so funny. Because even when I posted the picture and she's like, oh my gosh, I can't believe you posted that. Because one day we had gone to in the raw to eat with my friend and my mom, what she thought was guacamole, not thinking about it being the. Oh, the. The green. What is that called?
[00:06:38] Speaker A: I don't know what you're talking about. Okay.
[00:06:39] Speaker B: Which is Ultra spicy. And she had taken it like a big piece of dip and put the whole wad of it in her mouth. So her mouth was on fire. And she was like, laugh. We all were laughing till we had tears in our eyes. Well, I, of course, take a picture of her, and she was, like, kind of covering her mouth but laughing at the same time and on fire somehow. That was her obituary picture. Oh, no, no. So, but in the end, we all still laughed about it, but I'm like, oh, I feel guilty for laughing. But we had to find the funny. My. You know, my mom would have still been okay with it. I mean, still, my favorite video of her is We're Trying to Get in My Bed Pretty. You know, I've shared it a few times, and, yeah, you missed the sounds of their voices. So, you guys, this is going to be a heavy podcast today.
[00:07:25] Speaker A: Sorry, but it's where we are in life. I mean, it's. What we're going through. My whole weekend was grief and dealing with all of it. So it's. It's kind of where we are. But, you know, there was so much sorrow and. But so much love. And that's the. I don't know, almost 40 family members come in from out of town. None of them live here except, you know, immediate family. And so that was really fun to see because my. Everybody loved my mom, and then, you know, my friends driving over. So in all the grief, there was so much happiness, too. It's too bad. Like, I saw my cousin's husband, which I hadn't seen, and I don't even know how long. And, you know, he said, it's such a shame that it takes this to bring us all together, because I hadn't seen some of these people in 20 years, and so. And they don't live that far away. Sadly, we get so caught up in our own lives, we don't see him. So there's. There's a lot of joy that comes with it, and just seeing family, but obviously so much sorrow. And then my. My mom worked at this church that we had the Service at for 42 years as the secretary and just quit two years ago.
And the minister that she worked with for 16 of them is the one that did her service.
[00:08:29] Speaker B: Oh.
[00:08:30] Speaker A: And so he did an amazing job because he spoke about her from his perspective and his, you know, the outside looking in and who she was and, you know, the. The people that sent me text messages afterwards saying, I feel like I always thought I knew your mom just from you talking about her, but I Know her from a completely different.
He changed, like, some of how I feel about her. He actually. She makes. She's even more of an amazing person than I thought she was, just based on how he described her. So that was really cool to hear somebody else talk about her, because we know how much. Yeah. I mean, we know how great she was. But to hear somebody from the outside, and it was just. It was a beautiful service. But going.
[00:09:11] Speaker B: When people show up for you, it. It's a very special thing. I mean, because I was. I was like you. I mean, people came to the funerals, and I really was shocked. I'm like, man, you took time out of your day to come here. Some friends put together the big family dinner, like, for my dad, for my mom's. We all decided to go to Los Cabos. We got the back room. And honestly, that was just a party. I mean, because there were so many little kids. I mean, she has 36 grandkids. I lose count. Like, literally, someone's having a baby every year. But it really was a true good time. We were all laughing. As hard as it was, it was having that family. And some close friends came, too.
But it was really, really special. Yeah. So I'm sorry you're going through that.
[00:10:02] Speaker A: That's right. I do feel like now, the depth of that. Yeah. Yes. And everybody goes through it, you know, it's just. It's part of life. I said that to somebody. It's part of life. It's not the fun part of life, but it is what we go through.
[00:10:14] Speaker B: It does make you realize, like, how you need to show up, even maybe through our pain at some point. But I know, like I've told you before, I've still not gone to the cemetery, and I don't know when I will, oddly enough, they're where your mom is. Yeah.
[00:10:27] Speaker A: We can go together. Get up enough gumption.
[00:10:30] Speaker B: Yeah. Because I'm not gone. And I've avoided, like, all funerals.
[00:10:35] Speaker A: Yeah. I know.
[00:10:35] Speaker B: I won't make it through it. So. We'll get there. We will get there.
[00:10:41] Speaker A: Yeah. And it's a process. It doesn't happen overnight. I think it's something that's. You move through. You don't get over. You move through it when you live through it.
[00:10:50] Speaker B: You know, I'll tell moms if you're out there listening or to anybody that's special to you. I remember a. A few years ago, my mom was like, this is so weird, Amy. I don't know why you're asking. I'm like, just do it just make me a video of you singing me a happy birthday. That's all I wanted. Like.
And she had. She did it. And even in the video she's like, this is so weird, Amy. I'm just. Just do it. That's all I want. And now, you know, it's like one of my most prized things is to have a video of my mom just singing to me in the phone. It's the first thing I listen to on my birthday. So there's. There's little things that we think about along the way that are going to be so important to people that we care about.
[00:11:33] Speaker A: That actually just brought me. That just hit me like a rock in the face because my mom and dad, for how many. I don't even know how many years they've been doing it for our birthdays. They call us at 7:00 in the morning and sing together. I don't know what's going to happen now. My dad's not going to do it by himself because it was my mom that always initiated it. And he'd always. He'd be on one phone or he'd be standing next to her and they both. And my dad's got a beautiful voice. My mom usually just made it funny, but she did it to all her grandkids. She did it. They did it to every single person every year for 30 years, 40 years. And then my. As soon as they'd stopped singing, my dad would leave. You know, he and she'd stay on the phone and talk to us. And every single time I'd act like I wasn't. I couldn't hear him. I always go, hello, are you there? And my mom would laugh and say, you heard us. Now what am I going to do? My birthday. Like that just hit me.
[00:12:23] Speaker B: Yeah, there's. There will be new things every day.
You. You've got a lot to walk through.
[00:12:30] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:12:30] Speaker B: Over the next year, especially at first.
[00:12:34] Speaker A: Yeah. I read somewhere that they consider early grief. Is the first two years as early. Considered early grief. Oh, my gosh. Okay, let's get on some good news because.
[00:12:46] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:12:46] Speaker A: I mean, although I know people, there's a lot of people going through what we're going through, whether it's mother. I mean, I think mom and dads are hard, but people have lost children and.
[00:12:55] Speaker B: Oh, God, I cannot imagine.
[00:12:56] Speaker A: I can't either.
[00:12:57] Speaker B: And that's that just for my voice. I don't. It's the flowers, all the pollen and the flowers getting me in here.
[00:13:03] Speaker A: I think it's all hard. No matter you know, what the loss is. But that's kind of where we are. So unfortunately, you guys had to experience that today.
[00:13:11] Speaker B: Yeah, well, you know, it's life. You got to be willing to talk about it. Because I do think so many of us have to walk around tough. Yeah.
[00:13:19] Speaker A: I mean, we just.
[00:13:19] Speaker B: I mean, because literally the day after. I mean, my mom passed away the day after. Well, I mean, within 12 hours, basically. By the next day, I had to take my husband to get rotator cuff surgery. So I was thrown into a right armed. His main arm getting the most intense rotator cuff surgery.
And it was just like, where's the time to grieve? I mean. Cause I. I mean, I just was instantly thrown into a nurse mode. It. I mean, it's just life has to go on.
[00:13:47] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:13:48] Speaker B: We have to just tough through it somehow.
[00:13:50] Speaker A: It seems like it's probably good for you, though. I wonder. Yeah, it helps.
[00:13:54] Speaker B: I mean, yes, it does help to.
[00:13:55] Speaker A: Stay busy, but keep your mind off of it.
[00:13:57] Speaker B: Yeah. There's still lots of things I need to catch up on from just sitting back in grief, so.
[00:14:03] Speaker A: Okay, let's change the subject.
[00:14:05] Speaker B: Let's do it.
[00:14:06] Speaker A: So you had asked me last week and we didn't really talk about it. Is. What is maisong?
[00:14:11] Speaker B: Yeah. Mae Hong. Mahjong. I cannot even. How do you even say it?
[00:14:16] Speaker A: It's Mahjong. It's Meijong. It's Meijong.
[00:14:19] Speaker B: Okay. Yeah. I mean, you haven't.
[00:14:21] Speaker A: I can't believe, like, you seem to me you would be a slightly.
[00:14:24] Speaker B: Not if it involves numbers. No. You want to see me, like, freak out, panic? Crawl into a shell? Numbers me and numbers do not.
[00:14:34] Speaker A: Is it numbers up? Because it's really. You're matching pictures on like the Dom. They're like a domino when you match pictures. It's almost like I went one time. It was fun, but you have to go more than once. It's not as easy.
[00:14:48] Speaker B: Not numbers.
[00:14:49] Speaker A: Not numbers.
[00:14:50] Speaker B: See, all the time I thought it was like numbers.
[00:14:53] Speaker A: No, it's.
[00:14:54] Speaker B: They're.
[00:14:55] Speaker A: They look a little bit like a domino, except they have different pictures on them and you create sets just like. Like a car. If you're trying to play cards and you have like. I can't think of the card game, but where you have to have like five, four of a kind or five of a kind. Yeah. And so you do that with these domino looking things with different pictures on them and you have to try to match them. And then there's all sorts of rules, some crazy rules. It's complicated. You Gotta.
[00:15:20] Speaker B: You lost me. Uno is my game. You lost me. Complicated. I mean, I'm one of those people. You're trying to explain it. Instructions and, like, can we just. I'll learn as I play because I cannot be told instructions.
[00:15:32] Speaker A: And that's kind of how they. When you go to the lessons, because they have a ton of lessons. So you go and they have somebody at. Each year in 4 cents. There's four per table, and they have somebody there. And you have instructions. And so they. You play it as you. You learn as you play. And then they're helping you. So you can pick what, like you. You. You have to pull the dominoes. Just like, if you're playing dominoes, you pick five, put them on your little thing like almost like Scrabble, where you line them up, and then you start trying to figure out what set you want to go for. And then you go. You put the others back that you don't want. And then if someone else is discarding, then you. You can take theirs. And so it's kind of like a card game, except with these domino looking things.
[00:16:14] Speaker B: Yeah, I like Uno and Farkle.
[00:16:16] Speaker A: I don't even know that other one. What is it?
[00:16:18] Speaker B: It's a little game. I mean, it's a tiny little dice type game, but you can play with money and somebody can walk away with, you know, a little stash.
[00:16:28] Speaker A: Okay.
[00:16:29] Speaker B: But I gotta keep it easy.
[00:16:31] Speaker A: This is kind of replacing uno for when, you know, all the. Uno is that Uno that all the women get together and play.
[00:16:36] Speaker B: No, no, no. I was gonna ask you where they all sit at card tables and all that. Yeah, I never got into that either.
[00:16:41] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:16:42] Speaker B: Maybe once or twice my whole life.
[00:16:43] Speaker A: What's that called?
[00:16:44] Speaker B: I. I literally cannot think of it because that's what I was trying to think of. It'll come to us here in a minute. We have a little flashbang of bunco.
[00:16:52] Speaker A: Oh, yeah.
[00:16:52] Speaker B: Okay.
[00:16:53] Speaker A: This is kind of replacing bunk.
[00:16:54] Speaker B: Yeah.
Either.
[00:16:56] Speaker A: Yeah, I didn't either. I never was part of a bunko group.
[00:16:59] Speaker B: No.
[00:16:59] Speaker A: Well, I went one time because everybody keeps talking about it, and I thought, okay, I want to go. And then I never went back. I enjoyed it.
[00:17:06] Speaker B: See you later.
[00:17:09] Speaker A: No, that's what it is. It's not. It's. It's kind of fun. It'd be fun if you were playing with a group of girls you liked. Yeah, but like, that group, there was a. I don't know how many were in the room. 40.
[00:17:20] Speaker B: Wow.
[00:17:21] Speaker A: Learning how and. But you just. You really were in your foursome. Whatever the four of you sat together and played. Each one played different. So you're interesting. Not. You're not interacting with anybody else in the room, Player.
[00:17:32] Speaker B: No, I'm not either.
[00:17:33] Speaker A: No, we. We used to play, you know, at Christmas time. Like, Christmas Eve. We'd. Everybody. When the kids were younger, the grandkids were younger, we'd all be at mom and dad's and play Bunko, or we'd play something, but not often even. We're never big game players. Card games or.
[00:17:49] Speaker B: I mean, we had lots of games growing up, but I just wasn't the one that loved to play.
[00:17:53] Speaker A: Yeah, I mean, I like.
[00:17:54] Speaker B: Like Hungry Hungry Hippo. I'm. I'm very basic.
[00:17:57] Speaker A: I don't even know what that is.
[00:17:59] Speaker B: Yeah. And, like, what was that shock game where it would rattle all the things and you had to get Connect. No, no. Well, I do like Connect four. See, I'm very. Let's just keep it very, very basic. And I can play.
[00:18:13] Speaker A: Yeah, I don't even know what that one is either.
[00:18:16] Speaker B: Oh, gosh. It was, like, connection or. Yeah, it was fun. I loved it. I love the risk of, like, is it gonna explode on me?
[00:18:22] Speaker A: I don't even know what that is. But. So, yeah, no, we didn't play hardly any games growing up. Even. Even as an adult. I've never been. You know, people have game nights and stuff. I can't be bothered.
[00:18:32] Speaker B: No, no. Our family on Steven's side, we do have, like, Uno night, but we keep it to Uno. Now there's, like, a new, complicated Uno. We try to play that at the last, like, family game night. And it's like I said, it's always typically Uno. And I'm like, y'all, this has got. Uno just got ruined.
[00:18:49] Speaker A: Oh, really?
[00:18:49] Speaker B: Well, I mean, they just try too much. Just give me the old school, you know?
[00:18:52] Speaker A: Okay.
[00:18:53] Speaker B: Yeah, it's basic. Let's go. Yeah, we can do this. The other one was like, whoa. Too many new rules to it and too much. So.
[00:19:00] Speaker A: Are you a jigsaw puzzle, girl?
[00:19:02] Speaker B: You know, we got one at Christmas. Not generally, but I will say, it was so nice having it out on our dining room table, because we found so often that everybody. You just kind of walk by and you kind of mess with it. And all of us have said we need to get another puzzle and put it out, because we actually really did. No, I'm not a jigsaw person, but maybe I'm getting there. Maybe I'm going to be a crossword person soon.
[00:19:25] Speaker A: Oh, geez. I don't Know, I can't imagine.
[00:19:28] Speaker B: But we did all of it. My husband, my oldest son. I'd walk in and there they were working on the puzzle. So it was kind of nice together as a family.
[00:19:36] Speaker A: So everybody got on those during COVID when no one could go anywhere. But you couldn't even find a jigsaw puzzle in the stores. They were all bought out.
[00:19:43] Speaker B: Yeah. You know, I bought that portable tennis net because our driveway was actually big enough to be able to hold. And you can make it into a pickleball size.
[00:19:50] Speaker A: Oh, yeah.
[00:19:52] Speaker B: And my mom, since she was next door, you know, I mean, we would. She would come over, we play tennis out there.
[00:19:59] Speaker A: Oh, that's fun.
[00:20:00] Speaker B: It was fun. That thing was great. We got a lot of use out of that during COVID That was really nice.
[00:20:04] Speaker A: So that's another question. Do you play pickleball?
[00:20:08] Speaker B: No, not, not. Can I? Yes. And do I want to?
[00:20:12] Speaker A: Yes. Oh, you do.
[00:20:13] Speaker B: I do. I would love to. Oh, and even sometimes at the lake, we'll set it up out there and that's something we've done as a family and like really love it. But on a like, high skill level.
[00:20:23] Speaker A: No tournament. No, no. You're not going to pickleball tournament.
[00:20:26] Speaker B: I may if I. If it actually set to it and have the time to do that. But I mean, I could see myself wanting to do it more. Even my husband. I think we would actually do it together if we had the time.
[00:20:37] Speaker A: Oh, that'd be fun.
[00:20:38] Speaker B: We both enjoy tennis, so, you know, we'll see. How about you?
[00:20:42] Speaker A: I took a couple of lessons with my girls night out group. We went and played one night and then I. We did lessons. Yeah, I actually enjoyed it. I think I would play it. I just think I would hurt myself. Yeah, I'd be in. I'd be the one that gets injured.
[00:20:54] Speaker B: Because that's why I like it. You're not quite. I don't feel like I'm quite as at risk.
[00:20:59] Speaker A: Well, that's probably my knee off. Yeah. But so many of my people are falling and breaking hips and arms and Lord help me, I know I can't see. That's my fear. So I kind of stay away. But I. We sound like we're 110.
But I do think it's fun.
[00:21:16] Speaker B: And my husband's like, absolutely. Oh no, you will never get. And I'm like, but I can actually ski. Like, I'm actually really decent at it. Used to be at least.
[00:21:24] Speaker A: Yeah. When's the last time you skied?
[00:21:27] Speaker B: But he was like, that will Never happen. Ever, ever, ever.
[00:21:32] Speaker A: Yeah, I think that because I love to ski, too, and I skied for years, but I can't imagine skiing now because, man, the fall on a ski slope is a different fall.
[00:21:41] Speaker B: Yes, it is.
[00:21:41] Speaker A: Your ski gets wrapped up, and then all of a sudden, that's where I did the most damage to my knees, is skiing. And so, yeah, I'm. I. I can't imagine. I'd love to go to the mountains and go to a ski resort. Yeah, I just can't imagine actually getting out on a ski at this point in my life. I think I would really hurt myself. Yeah, I'm too clumsy. I fall going up. I just fell going up. My steps outside place face planted into my French doors.
[00:22:07] Speaker B: Yeah, I know.
[00:22:08] Speaker A: So it's. It's a dangerous.
[00:22:10] Speaker B: Yeah, he's right. I won't. I won't do that.
[00:22:12] Speaker A: It's a dangerous sport.
[00:22:14] Speaker B: Okay, so we're gonna do a super round since we've cried through the first part of this thing. Now we're gonna do quick questions of.
[00:22:22] Speaker A: Each other to get to know each other. Yeah.
[00:22:24] Speaker B: Okay. Okay. So what's the best piece of advice you've ever received?
[00:22:28] Speaker A: I don't know if it's the best piece of advice, but it's the one that's pounded into my head by my dad, and it actually has come to serve me really well as a business owner, is if you're on time, you're late. So I'm early for everything. I never. I'm on time. I do feel like I'm late, and it drives me insane to be. Be on, even on time. And so I'm always. Even if it's just two minutes early, I'm always early. And he used to pound that into our heads when we'd be running late for church or if you're on time, you're already late. This is ridiculous. We have to go. And so, yes, I don't know if it's good advice, but it sure has played me well as an adult.
[00:23:02] Speaker B: People that run me late. Yeah, okay. Favorite color?
[00:23:05] Speaker A: No, you answer. What's your.
[00:23:06] Speaker B: Oh, oh, oh. Okay. Best piece of advice I've ever received. Very basic, but it always comes to mind. And my mom would always say, don't borrow, worry. Don't worry about something basically that we really don't even know if we need to worry about it. We can waste a lot of energy. So there's a lot of times where I just kind of like, try to shake it off knowing she has said that. Okay, what's your favorite color?
[00:23:27] Speaker A: Pink Now.
[00:23:28] Speaker B: Okay. Mine is green.
[00:23:30] Speaker A: Green.
[00:23:31] Speaker B: What is your go to Starbucks order?
[00:23:34] Speaker A: Thai latte.
[00:23:35] Speaker B: Okay. Mine is that ribbon frappuccino. Oh, I've never had a coffee from Starbucks.
[00:23:41] Speaker A: You haven't? Nope. I don't really do their coffee. Their coffee's too strong. But the chai tea I really like. It's nice, I used to say, makes me happy. It's just really soothing.
[00:23:50] Speaker B: And I should try it.
[00:23:51] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:23:52] Speaker B: Okay. What's your favorite food?
[00:23:53] Speaker A: Oh, gosh, I don't really have a favorite. I'm not a big food person.
I mean, Sushi, probably. If I had one, I was. If I could pick any restaurant, it would probably be a sushi restaurant.
[00:24:03] Speaker B: Okay. Mine are. It's homemade empanadas. I mean, we even did them at my family when I asked for my big birthday family.
[00:24:11] Speaker A: Oh, yeah.
[00:24:11] Speaker B: So we all press out our own empanada. I mean, we press. Use the tortilla presses. I mean, it is whole process. Whole process. So that's, like, my favorite. And I don't, like. I don't want fruit filled. Ours are actually cheese filled. And then we do. They're fried. And then we have a sauce that my. My grandmother was known for her sauce. So that's my favorite food. Infantis Guilty pleasure Spa.
[00:24:37] Speaker A: Going away to a spa.
[00:24:39] Speaker B: See, that's probably really good. I mean, mine is. I was gonna say a sonic blast, which is funny because I always get it with extra. My husband gets so mad because he's with me. I was worth the drive through. I want a sonic blast. Or I want an extra fudge hot fudge sundae. But if I'm gonna do. If I'm ever gonna do that, I want extra of everything. So I'm like, would you please tell him I want extra fudge and nuts? And he's like, I'm not telling them. Extra fudge and nuts. You're gonna have to tell them. He gets so irritated.
[00:25:12] Speaker A: You can just see him pull up.
[00:25:13] Speaker B: He's like, some of me say fudge and nuts extra. If I get an Oreo blast. And I'm like, give me the extra Oreo and the extra whip. Like, I mean, just load it up.
[00:25:22] Speaker A: Okay.
[00:25:23] Speaker B: But he won't ask for extra fudge nuts.
[00:25:28] Speaker A: Mine is a spa. I go to a spa in every city or every country. I've been to every.
Find a spa. I love them. I'm not. It's the best.
[00:25:37] Speaker B: See, I'm very basic. I need. I need to spread my wings a little bit.
[00:25:44] Speaker A: When you first said sonic Blast. I was like, is that a trip?
[00:25:47] Speaker B: Like, what is this?
[00:25:48] Speaker A: It's a train that goes really fast.
[00:25:51] Speaker B: Oh, that is so funny. No, that's. That's my guilty pleasure. So we'll do one more current TV obsession.
[00:26:00] Speaker A: I'm not really. I don't watch a lot of tv, but I'm a. I'm a reality show person. I don't watch any sitcoms or any scripted. It's all reality stuff. Right.
[00:26:11] Speaker B: We. Mine is recently. So Ty and I have started watching the Rookie and my mom used to like it too. My mom and dad. I think my dad had watched that. Anyways, it's a great series. It's a police series, but it really kind of. There's so much to it that is honestly so realistic to what it is piled on these officers every day and. And their job and how quick they have to even talk about having to suppress grief. No, I bet that's insane.
[00:26:36] Speaker A: That kind of hits home with you guys. Anyway.
[00:26:39] Speaker B: Yeah. So anyways, that's the Rookie receipts. Ty and I are actually starting from season one. Had no idea there were eight seasons. So I don't know how long. But it's actually a good show for it to go on that long. Yeah, it's on Netflix and how we're watching it. So anyways, that's it. We'll do some more of these. Rapid fire.
[00:26:57] Speaker A: Yeah. So this. This is the. If you. If you're not familiar, Vogue came out with 70. I think it's 74 questions that they've asked.
[00:27:04] Speaker B: Who.
[00:27:04] Speaker A: So Vogue magazine.
[00:27:06] Speaker B: Okay.
[00:27:07] Speaker A: So we are doing the she said 70 questions. And so we'll split it up over several podcasts. You guys get to know us a little bit better. Some of our.
[00:27:16] Speaker B: Tell us if there's some other questions we should ask each other.
[00:27:19] Speaker A: Yeah, some good ones.
[00:27:21] Speaker B: That's it. Thanks for crying with us. Yes, we're sorry.
[00:27:25] Speaker A: Yeah, we're sorry.
[00:27:26] Speaker B: We'll try not to make it heavy it.
[00:27:27] Speaker A: Every time we can get through all this.
[00:27:30] Speaker B: We're walking through this.
[00:27:32] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:27:32] Speaker B: Hopefully it'll help bring some joy.
[00:27:34] Speaker A: Yeah, everybody's going through it, so hopefully it helps somebody because we're right smack dab in the middle of it. So we will see you guys are here next week.
