Episode Transcript
[00:00:00] Speaker A: Welcome back to the she Said podcast with Amy and Lisa, episode 25.
[00:00:05] Speaker B: Let's see what life has brought us this week.
[00:00:08] Speaker A: How was your weekend?
[00:00:10] Speaker B: It was good. I feel like I've had. I guess, in a way, if, like, if I'm just totally honest, I feel like it's been kind of an emotional weekend. It's weird.
Like, just lots of weird memories on Facebook popping up of.
Of COVID of all things, like with my dad in the nursing home. I don't know, just really weird. So I'll say it's kind of been really hard, emotional week and I'm not going to start out crying, but yeah, I mean, a little bit of anger, things like that, that don't go away. You don't forget about it.
I just remember him being caged up, you know, that was something I went through with him. Our whole family did just happen to him be locked away so behind a glass window first, even for a few months, couldn't even see his wife. Like, he couldn't even. We couldn't even do that. It was like a miracle when we got permission to see him behind glass and just to have to touch your loved one with a piece of glass behind between the two of you and a husband and wife that have been married for 60 years couldn't even touch each other.
[00:01:11] Speaker A: Especially was just that age when he was going through what.
[00:01:14] Speaker B: And he had dementia, you know, I mean, like he needed her and how they did. Not even for a minute, not to mention she was an rn. Deem her somebody that had to be there as an essential person in his life is just crazy and it's just unforgivable. So I will always be bitter about that. I don't know how I'll ever get over it, honestly. So they stole from us.
[00:01:42] Speaker A: How long after that did he. What year did he pass away?
[00:01:45] Speaker B: Well, we. Well, he was in there for a year without his family, so.
[00:01:49] Speaker A: Holy cow.
[00:01:50] Speaker B: And it just. It just. It got the best of him.
That's what happened is he just gave up. He never got sick.
It wasn't like that. He just. He was lonely. In the FaceTime calls were just. I remember he'd call and he would just break down and just beg me to help get him out of there. He just had to see. I mean, it was awful.
[00:02:11] Speaker A: I can't imagine.
[00:02:12] Speaker B: It was terrible.
[00:02:15] Speaker A: So, yeah, that was such a weird time. I mean, we could go on about that forever. But I know. I can only imagine your grief and sadness because of that. On top of.
[00:02:26] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:02:26] Speaker A: Already the grief and Sadness.
[00:02:28] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:02:28] Speaker A: And your mom having to endure that as well.
[00:02:31] Speaker B: Yeah. I'll always be angry about that.
[00:02:34] Speaker A: So, so crazy.
[00:02:36] Speaker B: Yes.
[00:02:37] Speaker A: Well, mine was kind of emotional too, because my dad was its 90th birthday.
I just remember how sad my birthday was this year.
[00:02:44] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:02:45] Speaker A: Her not being here. And so I tried to make it a big deal. I took a cake over, I sang Happy Birthday.
I did candles. You know, I did the whole thing. Just trying to make it, you know, he would never want any.
A big deal made out of it anyway at his where he is now emotionally and everything. But I tried to make it just fun. Did ice cream and cake and. But it was hard. And we didn't talk about how hard it was.
[00:03:12] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:03:12] Speaker A: Because I knew if I did, I would cry and he would probably cry. And I just tried to make it as happy as I could make it for him. I actually posted on my page for people to wish him a happy birthday. And he got like 70 people from my page alone that wished him, which he didn't know anybody, but still it was just kind of fun that he got a lot of happy birthday wishes from people. Just trying to make it as light as I could be.
[00:03:37] Speaker B: Well, you know, you say that because it is interesting. It's like, how often do. Because I know, like me, I'd rather cry alone.
[00:03:44] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:03:44] Speaker B: Like, I don't cry with my sisters.
I don't. I really don't try to cry with people. That's why I'm like, dang it, I'm not going to cry. So how often, like you said, you and your dad didn't want to make it sad around each other, but yet we're all sitting in this grief.
[00:03:59] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:04:00] Speaker B: By ourselves. It never really goes away and you don't share it.
So it's just interesting. Like, why do we hide it like that?
[00:04:10] Speaker A: I don't. I know I brought that up before and I do, I think about that often because I do think we.
I think the world moves on.
And so sometimes you don't want to bring it up because you think they're thinking, oh, geez, okay, move on. Yeah. But I, you know, the grief is never going to go away. And it's. You miss them on different days for different reasons.
[00:04:33] Speaker B: Yeah. Like, yeah. This morning I had a. I was going through my makeup box and stuff and I had some face powder that was a face powder my mom always wore. It was like that airspun and man, did it trigger her scent.
And I just, I remember standing there, I was like, oh, it smells like Mimi. And Ty could hear me and he's like, what, What? What did you say?
I was like, this just smells like. It just smelled like her face. You know what I mean?
[00:05:00] Speaker A: I did that too. I have magnolia that magnolia oil. And I. When my mom was in the hospital, I started putting it on her bruised arms. You know, their arms got so bruised in the hospital. And it really did help eliminate the bruising. But I accidentally sprayed some of that on me a couple mornings ago. And I held my breath and ran into the bathroom to wash my hands because I was not in the place emotionally to be able to smell that scent. I knew it would just set me back. Yeah. And I couldn't do. I was like, oh, no, no, no, no, no, no. And I literally took off running so I didn't have to smell it because I just thought, oh, not today. And the crazy thing in. I was actually taking a shower the other night and I heard her yell my name.
And it's the same yell that she used to do on. On Saturday mornings after my dad. When I would spend the night, my dad would go leave about 6:30 to run errands. And then it was just. I'd stay in my room until I knew she was awake. And she'd always holler at me. And then I'd say, are you awake? And she'd say, yeah. And then I'd go where she was. And it was that same, same tone of voice. And I just stood there for a minute. I was like. And then I got scared. That is like, oh my gosh. Is my dad okay? Is she. Is. Is she my. Something's going on with my dad. It's like, holy cow. I mean, when does it not affect us like that? I don't know.
[00:06:25] Speaker B: I don't know.
[00:06:28] Speaker A: It's just hard.
It's so crazy. The triggers and it's, you know, like that.
[00:06:33] Speaker B: It's like really sad because you see how people, you know, I guess when people lose a spouse, maybe there's hope for them later. Not. I mean, like when they're young enough that to find somebody, to find love again.
But man was your parent. You don't get to replace that love.
You just don't.
[00:06:52] Speaker A: Well, every. I think that's the hardest thing for me that I've had to figure out is that nothing's the same.
Every day is a different day because they're not here.
And I thankfully still have my dad. But you know, I'm watching him with his sadness and I'm watching him change every day.
[00:07:12] Speaker B: Oh, man. Yeah, that. That Those that three months where we didn't see my dad, where he was, my mom was not able to be with him every day. And we, when we saw him and it was a video I just recently posted. Because it was a memory. It was shocking. The difference in what he looked like from those few months of not being with people that he loved.
He had just withered.
[00:07:39] Speaker A: It too.
I'm seeing it too. And, you know, at least we get to talk to him and see him. I spent the Friday and Saturday with him this weekend and.
But just I think about watching him walk down the aisle at my mom's memorial service. I could barely keep up with him. And I'm a pretty fast walker because he was just booking it down there. And then to see that person today, he's half his size that he was that day, it's heartbreaking. Oh, just. It's devastating. And it's, you know, it's like every time I go over there, I have to psych myself up as I pull into the driveway, like, just, you know, I walk in singing and trying to be as cheerful as I can for him, but it's like, man, it takes your breath away.
[00:08:18] Speaker B: It's the season we're in. And I had just, actually just hung up with a good friend of mine when I pulled up here and she was moving her mom into memory care at a well known place here in Tulsa. She's with her all the time. Like, all, all the time with her. But you know, at the end of the day, as exhausting as it is for her now, it's like at least she knows that when her mom passes, that she has done everything she could do to be there. Like what you're doing now, I mean, that's. I have no regrets in how I handled my parents or how I treated them and how much I was there. Like, I know I tried to serve my parents well and honor them. And I think at the end of the day, like, as long as you can lay your head on the pillow and know that.
[00:09:03] Speaker A: Yeah, then, yeah. And I smile. Yeah, I gave up everything and I'm doing it again. It's. You do everything you can.
[00:09:11] Speaker B: Yes.
[00:09:12] Speaker A: And he said that to me a couple weeks ago. He thanked me for coming over and he said, I sure hate it that you are having to wait on me. I said, dad, it's my honor to be able to do that. He goes, well, I didn't have kids to, to wait on me. I'm like, it's like, it's the circle of life. It is it's what happens. And I'm. I'm happy. I can do it.
And I'm wouldn't do it any other way.
I wouldn't be anyplace else except right here. But, boy, it does take a toll.
[00:09:37] Speaker B: It does take a toll. So anyways, I'm sorry if we've made anybody sad out there to cry with us. I know that was kind of a heavy.
[00:09:45] Speaker A: It's just where we are, unfortunately, or fortunately. I don't know.
[00:09:48] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:09:50] Speaker A: You know, Han Appliance is one of my clients. Yeah, they've been my clients for 15 years now. And so it's funny, I'm always, obviously, learning a lot about appliances, which is not the most exciting thing on Earth. But right now we're all, you know, we talk about chat, GPT, and all the AI stuff. Well, now it's really come into play in appliances.
It's kind of been coming over the years, but it's really like a lot of new stuff coming out in 2025, 2026 with AI, but now, like, that for me, the best thing ever. Your ovens can now recognize the food you're cooking. So, for example, if you put it on 350 for 30 minutes, but then it's actually. Your oven happens to bake fester or whatever. Whatever's happening, it'll actually turn the oven off when it's done so that you're not burning your food, which is stovetop.
[00:10:39] Speaker B: Because I know my husband eats it so bad. The fights we have over burnt food in our house is unreal. Like, it is up there.
[00:10:49] Speaker A: If they.
[00:10:49] Speaker B: If somebody said, okay, what's the top three arguments in your home? Burnt food is on there.
[00:10:55] Speaker A: See, I'm the same way, though. I. I cook so fast. I hate to, like, wait for sep to cook, so I turn on the highest, and then I'll get busy. Yeah, I. My. My alarm company calls me daily with. We have a smoke alarm going off in your dining room.
[00:11:08] Speaker B: Yes, I'll say I am guilty as well. This is not just Stephen, because I did have our smoke alarm company called me. I think it was last Monday, maybe because I had completely obliterated the house.
[00:11:22] Speaker A: So I'm guessing the burners might do the same thing. I don't know. I was. I was studying more. The oven.
[00:11:27] Speaker B: Yes, we need that. Because I really don't use my oven. I use a toaster oven for everything.
[00:11:32] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:11:33] Speaker B: Did you know that about me?
[00:11:34] Speaker A: No.
[00:11:35] Speaker B: Well, you know I don't microwave, right? Okay. Yeah. So I went to a toaster oven, which I Love. Because you can heat things up really easy on the toaster oven and they just taste better anyway. Or I will just warm something up on the skillet.
So I don't even bother with my big oven because most anything we want to cook fits in that wide toaster oven. Just seems easier. I don't know.
[00:11:56] Speaker A: I used to cook with the toaster oven all the time.
[00:11:58] Speaker B: Yeah. And really, there's always somebody got like, Steven's gone or Rocky's gone. So I'm really not ever cooking for this. This giant group, Huge group or anything like that. So, yeah, I love the toaster oven to use for everything. And I don't have an air. There is an air fryer button on it. I don't really use it. I don't.
[00:12:17] Speaker A: I love my air fryer.
[00:12:19] Speaker B: So I still don't have an air fryer, like a real drawer fryer.
[00:12:23] Speaker A: I do use my air fryer all the time. I don't use a microwave. I have one, but I don't use it. I use the air fryer. And I do love them.
[00:12:31] Speaker B: And I keep saying, I'm gonna get one.
[00:12:32] Speaker A: You should try it.
[00:12:32] Speaker B: It's good to try the air fry button on my.
[00:12:36] Speaker A: On my. We might push that thing and see what happens.
[00:12:40] Speaker B: It might work.
[00:12:41] Speaker A: We'll see. Don't have to buy one. Just push the air fryer.
See what happens.
Well, like, I ran into Amy Friday night at Whole Foods buying food that she had actually told me about. Now I'm like, I'm all addicted to it, and I do it all the time. But putting that salmon in the air.
[00:12:59] Speaker B: Fryer rammed me in the.
[00:13:00] Speaker A: I did. I was trying to figure out.
[00:13:02] Speaker B: She was trying to get me to throw fists at her. She's not knowing who it was.
[00:13:05] Speaker A: Let's see if I can make her really mad.
[00:13:07] Speaker B: Like a pervert in the store.
[00:13:10] Speaker A: I actually was gonna, like, literally grab you and just see what happened, but I decided not. There was too many people around.
But putting that in the air fryer is so good because I just did.
[00:13:20] Speaker B: Mine in the pan.
[00:13:21] Speaker A: Crunchy.
Yeah, it's good. You should try push that.
[00:13:24] Speaker B: Good idea.
[00:13:25] Speaker A: See what happens with your.
[00:13:26] Speaker B: See, then I get trapped in the whole. My house is going to sink forever. I've gotten to the point where I'm like, I'm about to take everybody outside and we're going to cook outside everything. Like, I'm about to put a tent up out there and put a little cooking station. Because I'm just so over the lack of ventilation. Yeah. Sensor. Like, big Thing.
[00:13:43] Speaker A: Me too.
[00:13:44] Speaker B: Yeah. And they weren't, obviously, because I didn't smell for a long time, but now, like, now certain smells are just stronger to me. And, man, I get mad.
[00:13:53] Speaker A: I have noticed, though, with this salmon from there, you don't have that lingery, because my house is the same way. The ventilation is not great, so the scents tend to stay around.
[00:14:02] Speaker B: I'm gonna tell you what that. Did you get that chicken salad yet from there? I told you their chicken salad at Whole Foods because, I mean, some people may go get it at Sam's. Some people probably make it their own. And good for you, because I do not make my own chicken salad.
[00:14:15] Speaker A: That is not an option.
[00:14:16] Speaker B: I'm going to say the Whole Foods chicken salad that you can get back there at the deli is just. It just tastes so fresh. There's no.
You don't taste chicken if that's like. I don't like to taste bird in my. Don't. I don't want to smell bird in my eggs. I don't taste bird of my eggs, and I don't want to taste chicken in my chicken nuggets.
[00:14:35] Speaker A: Okay.
[00:14:36] Speaker B: So just that. But their chicken salad is so good back there.
And we would tell you the rest of our hack, but we're not going to tell you our food hack at Whole Foods because we're afraid there won't be any left. So our lips are sealed.
[00:14:50] Speaker A: And it's a good one. It makes me happy for a week.
Well, anyway, so the refrigerator obviously has cameras in it, and so you can see your food from the grocery store. So if you.
[00:15:01] Speaker B: What?
[00:15:02] Speaker A: There's an app on your phone. So if you're like, oh, wait, do we have eggs? I can't remember. You can look in your fridge on your app on your phone and tell you what you have in your fridge.
[00:15:12] Speaker B: My fridge would laugh at me.
[00:15:13] Speaker A: Well, mine too. It's like, there's nothing in here. Lady.
[00:15:17] Speaker B: This mother out.
Buy something to put in here food. My kids would start putting post its inside the refrigerator. Buy food.
[00:15:28] Speaker A: Oh, my God. Mine would laugh at me, too, because there's. It's not like there's anything to, like, decipher what's in there and what's not in there.
[00:15:34] Speaker B: Laugh at me.
[00:15:35] Speaker A: Why don't you just fill it up?
[00:15:36] Speaker B: But it would say clean now. A clean, clean, clean.
[00:15:39] Speaker A: So that's funny. Yeah. But anyway, I think it's a little.
[00:15:42] Speaker B: Too invasive for me to have it.
[00:15:44] Speaker A: Well, I knew you were gonna have a camera on in your refrigerator, but just think about that.
Of course no one's gonna see it but you. But if you open the refrigerator at night.
[00:15:53] Speaker B: That's scary. Yeah, that's scary. Yeah.
[00:15:55] Speaker A: Yeah. There have been days. Holy moly.
[00:15:57] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:15:57] Speaker A: But it's kind of crazy. And then your washer and dryer. Your washer gives your dryer heads up that it's getting ready to get some clothes because it's washing. And you've got five minutes left because.
[00:16:08] Speaker B: The dryer needs to be woke up or wet.
[00:16:10] Speaker A: Yeah, I guess. I don't know. I'm kind of like, okay, what's coming?
[00:16:15] Speaker B: What, do they have feelings now? I mean, what is going on?
[00:16:18] Speaker A: Let them know what's coming so they don't get it. Surprised by the clothes?
[00:16:22] Speaker B: It's the millennial.
No, Gen Z washer. Dry. Like, they need to be told ahead of time so they feel better that we gave them warning.
[00:16:31] Speaker A: They weren't left out. They weren't in the washing cycle.
[00:16:35] Speaker B: We're just letting you know we're gonna come your way in a minute.
[00:16:37] Speaker A: Get ready, get ready.
[00:16:39] Speaker B: There's some clothes. We don't want you to feel overwhelmed, so we're giving you warning. Dryer. Wow. Okay.
[00:16:44] Speaker A: So anyway, that's exciting. I've been. I've been doing a lot of studying on AI appliances. It's pretty exciting to me.
[00:16:51] Speaker B: Well, I don't know. Okay, that's interesting.
[00:16:54] Speaker A: I got a order today, one of those crazy subscriptions that you forget about. Ooh. For mouth taping. Oh, my mouth tape got sent. And of course, guess what mine look like.
[00:17:06] Speaker B: Lips.
[00:17:06] Speaker A: Yep. Big pink lips.
And they ship today. And I don't even do it anymore. But have you tried it?
[00:17:14] Speaker B: No.
[00:17:14] Speaker A: Mouth taping? It's actually.
[00:17:16] Speaker B: No.
[00:17:16] Speaker A: Interesting.
[00:17:17] Speaker B: Why aren't you doing it, though?
Because there's no more room on your face because of all the other things we're doing on at night.
[00:17:25] Speaker A: Well, that is some of it, because I do put product on around my. You know, we talked about that last week. We put eye cream around our lips. I do it every night.
That won't stick.
Oh, true. Most of the time I woke up and it wasn't on my face anymore. So I just thought, I don't know, that I'm getting that kind of benefit out of it.
I mean, people swear by it.
[00:17:45] Speaker B: Yeah, I've seen. I mean, I've seen before and afters where it actually alters their face.
[00:17:49] Speaker A: And it does help your jawline. Yeah, supposedly. I hadn't seen any results of that, but so I haven't ordered any since November. I don't know how the sun today if it's on a once a year, I don't really know. But I went in and I canceled it because I don't do it. But goodness, I have tried it and I do have a lot of pink lips if you would like to try. So just. Yes. Figure it out if you like them.
[00:18:11] Speaker B: Yes.
[00:18:12] Speaker A: Supposedly for people that snore, it does help with snoring because your mouth is taped shut. They do have a little slit in the middle. So you do get air. You do get air. So you're not going to die while you're sleeping. That's some people's biggest fear is that what if your nose stops up in the middle of the night and then you can't breathe? But there is an opening.
Can breathe.
[00:18:33] Speaker B: Yeah. Great. That makes me panic. Kind of breathing through a straw. My hack is cheap and it was one I discovered by accident.
But it works. So you'll have to just kind of picture it because when I was getting out of the. I always sleep in a T shirt or sweatshirt or whatever, so.
But when I was getting in the shower one day, I was like, been over take my hair and I didn't want to wash my hair because I washed it every few days. I was pulling my shirt over my head and I realized, like, it was kind of catching my hair up just perfect like a shower cap would.
So I kind of kept twist, twist, twisting the T shirt like I would a towel and then just tucked it in just like a towel. So I was like, oh, well, this is kind of like a perfect little shower cap because I hate shower caps. I don't know. I don't like the feeling of stuffing my hair up in a shower cap. Like they never. They always want to fall out or that's. That's one reason why I never did a shower cap. I don't like the. It's a feeling thing for me. Texture. But I think I have sensory issues.
[00:19:30] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:19:31] Speaker B: Okay. So anyways, that's beside the fact. Free, easy way to keep your hair dry when you get in the shower. Just when you pull your shirt over your head, go ahead and wrap it up like a little beanie thing and it works. And this my hair today is, by the way, three days old of curl. And I got one of those generic air wraps off of Amazon and I am very pleased with it. I can't even believe it. And I had a coupon for it and I got it for $50.
[00:20:00] Speaker A: That's crazy.
[00:20:01] Speaker B: It is crazy. Yeah.
[00:20:02] Speaker A: Let me take your picture. So I can post it of your long lush.
Hold on.
[00:20:07] Speaker B: Ta da.
[00:20:08] Speaker A: Okay. Yeah. So explain what that is.
[00:20:10] Speaker B: A little bit more so I mean most like the Dyson Air Wrap, it's just the. It's a barrel and it has two wands. So either one's going to blow to the left or one's going to blow to the right. So that's. It is a learning curve. So be prepared, invest your time.
Need to do it for the evening. Don't do it before work because you'll never make it to work on time. You need to watch some little videos because people will teach you how to do it on there also. But making sure you put a hair protectant in there and all that's real important. But anyways, you literally just kind of hold your hair up right here and it catch the wind catches it and starts wrapping around that barrel, sucks it in there, it wraps it around. There's no sucking in, but it just, it sucks it around the barrel and holds it. You hold it there and then there's a cool button. Using that cool button is important. And then you shut it off and pull your hair out.
[00:20:53] Speaker A: Okay.
[00:20:54] Speaker B: Then do it again. But it does give a nice full. I mean I have brushed through these curls with a full on brush. Like heavy handed, not even.
And it's still here three days later. It slept on, no cap. Put up in a, you know, T shirt for showers and it's lasted and I don't, I didn't even put hairspray in it to hold it.
[00:21:13] Speaker A: That's good.
[00:21:14] Speaker B: Yeah, it's done a really good job. So you don't have to buy the 600 Dyson Air Wrap. Now the one I got only came with those two tools but I didn't want the whole brush thing and all that.
[00:21:24] Speaker A: Now is yours Dyson or.
[00:21:25] Speaker B: No, no, it's a generic off brand. Yeah, it's like called like Mes Mesco or something. I don't know. It's generic good enough for me. Little dominant. I like all the hair tools, so whatever. That's what my hair looks so good. Lisa, I know you were wondering.
[00:21:41] Speaker A: I was like, whoa, that's unusual.
[00:21:44] Speaker B: Who's that girl?
[00:21:45] Speaker A: Usually it's wet when it gets.
[00:21:46] Speaker B: Exactly. Because it's so hard to do. It's like such a pain in the rear to do.
[00:21:50] Speaker A: Yeah, yeah. Look, it does look good. It looks different than it's ever looked since I've seen you. See because you usually do a blowout when you do it and it's straight and now it's got a lot of waves in it.
[00:22:00] Speaker B: Yeah. Today's kind of wavy, like 90s 80s Farah Fawcett hair.
[00:22:06] Speaker A: Okay. So there's a kissing bug disease. Have you heard about it?
[00:22:10] Speaker B: I don't have it. I can tell you. Are you sure?
[00:22:12] Speaker A: No. Because let me tell you something. People have it and they don't know they have it. It's called Chagas is the disease. And you get it from the kissing bug. And it's going around. There's 32 states that have identified people with the. But they often are not diagnosed until it's too late for treatment. So they. The bug. The kissing bug. The reason they call it that is because it bites you on the face. And so I was a little bit freaked out about that. So I was like, wait a minute. What? They said it's in 32 states. Have the diseases confirmed? It's in Oklahoma, but it's only been found in animals in Oklahoma. Not in people. But some states it's been found in both. So if you get a bug bite on your face, do something. If we're one of them. So we have them in animals, but not humans in Oklahoma. The kissing bug. And I don't know what it looks like. There was not anything about that.
[00:23:04] Speaker B: No pictures or anything.
[00:23:05] Speaker A: I didn't see a picture of it. Couldn't find a picture. Do they know? I don't know.
[00:23:09] Speaker B: Wow.
[00:23:10] Speaker A: Is it make believe? I don't know.
[00:23:12] Speaker B: True.
[00:23:13] Speaker A: There's a whole conspiracy that I thought you might jump on.
[00:23:16] Speaker B: Yeah. Let me yell, Matt. Let me add it. I'll get out. I'll get after it to your list. Dang. Okay.
[00:23:23] Speaker A: Yeah. I spend so much time outside that I really do focus on bug bites because I somehow get them all.
[00:23:31] Speaker B: Yeah. I have got my right leg especially. I just have so many, like little. I feel like I've got little scabs from getting mosquito bites recently. And even like Ty has so many from fishing. I mean, going out there and fishing and which. Speaking of, I have to say this because I have a friend from high school, Tracy. You know who you are? Michael. I graduated with Michael, her husband. But they have just been so kind. Like they've noticed that, you know, I have a kid who loves to fish. He will do anything to be able to go fish. And they don't have any. Any kids. They're his age. Michael also is a avid. Like he loves to fish. Has a garage, I guess, full of fishing stuff, whatever. Well, he has taken notice that Ty loves to do that. And they have surprised him with the like, never expected. I mean, when we first got our first. When he got his first package, we were like, what. What is this? Where did this even come from? Where they have surprised him with like, the most full box of like the coolest fishing things a kid could ever. Like an adult could ever want. They have just gifted him and invested in him and they're just for. For Michael, he's like, I love that I see a kid who's loves doing this, makes videos about it that just. I just. I think it's really neat that someone is investing in another kid's future or investing in his hobby because he. Just because he can. And I love how generous they are with that. And it is like, it's so unexpected from. For Ty. Like, if he sees something, he's like completely shocked. But they literally sent him a fishing pole, a new pole that Michael wanted him to be able to try. And he's never even met Michael face to face, ever. I don't think maybe he was a little bitty maybe, but really neat. When you think about, man, if you do. If you've got a neighbor kid or somebody that you see doing something encouraging, like take the time to make a small investment in them and help keep that hobby alive or whatever it is they're doing to keep encouraging them, because I do think it's. It's really been a gift to him to do that. So Tracy and Michael, if you hear this, I love you. Thank you.
That's just very, very, very cool that you guys have done that.
[00:25:37] Speaker A: Yeah, it's really cool.
[00:25:39] Speaker B: I Seriously. And she was my neighbor growing up across the street my whole life. So like, she's always been a part of my life and just. And then she married a guy from my. From my high school class who's just as sweet as can be. So anyways, kind of a neat story.
[00:25:52] Speaker A: That's great.
[00:25:53] Speaker B: Yeah. We've always been a part of each other's lives.
[00:25:55] Speaker A: I love that.
Well, guess what's happening in two weeks from yesterday.
[00:25:59] Speaker B: Let me guess.
More creative adventures from Lisa.
[00:26:05] Speaker A: I'm so excited.
[00:26:06] Speaker B: I. I know you are.
[00:26:08] Speaker A: I can't wait. I think it's going to be so much fun. I hope everybody has as much fun as I'm gonna have, as I'm already having. Like I just told you, I already have the table. The place settings.
[00:26:17] Speaker B: Our table is set two weeks in advance.
[00:26:19] Speaker A: Yeah, it's been that way for a week.
[00:26:22] Speaker B: Mine would be wrecked.
[00:26:24] Speaker A: Well, I actually ordered centerpieces from Wales and they came in early, so I had to get them out and try it out. And then I was like, wait, I need to do this. Well, then I need that.
[00:26:34] Speaker B: Well, then I was like, my gosh.
[00:26:36] Speaker A: So practicing the napkin folds. It's been so much fun.
[00:26:39] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:26:40] Speaker A: I'm such a dork.
[00:26:41] Speaker B: Having so much fun.
[00:26:42] Speaker A: I am having fun. But you know what's so funny? Last night, I, you know, I wear an aura ring, and I would still.
[00:26:48] Speaker B: Like to play a joke on you right now. Be like, I can't, Kim. Lisa. And I would love to see a picture of her face.
Sorry. Go ahead. I'm gonna do that.
[00:26:55] Speaker A: I already have backup for people that back out.
[00:26:57] Speaker B: Okay.
[00:26:58] Speaker A: I've got people that want to come and, like, just call me. I'll be there. So I already have a backup.
[00:27:02] Speaker B: Great and replaceable.
[00:27:04] Speaker A: Yeah.
Except she's not in the same category you're in, so it's gonna really mess everything up. I wear an aura ring, and I follow that oura ring with everything. It helps my sleep, you know. You track your sleep well. It also tells you your stress level throughout the day, and it spikes up to stressed or relaxed or engaged.
Recovery is one of the low end, which I never hit recovery for some reason or make it down there, which is the optimal place to be. But last night I happened to. You know how you feel when you're stressed. You can. We've talked about it. Where your skin just feels like it's crawling and you just feel like you're like, oh.
[00:27:37] Speaker B: Oh, yeah.
[00:27:38] Speaker A: I didn't have that at all. But I just happened to look at my. I always start looking at it in the evening to try to just be calm.
[00:27:44] Speaker B: You're like, yeah. You know that feeling? I go, yeah, you're like, I didn't have that at all.
[00:27:49] Speaker A: Is that.
[00:27:51] Speaker B: Well, I got that feeling. You're like, yeah, I didn't have that.
[00:27:54] Speaker A: Oh, my God.
[00:27:55] Speaker B: Okay.
[00:27:56] Speaker A: I normally have that feeling, but I didn't last night. That's the whole point of this story is I'm gonna tell you.
[00:28:01] Speaker B: Yeah, Well, I know that feeling.
[00:28:02] Speaker A: Well, you do too. Good grief. But I didn't. I wasn't feeling that. So I don't know what made me look at my stress. I guess because it was getting closer in the evening, and I thought, I need to start chilling out so I don't stay up all night.
And I was at the highest level of stress, and I wasn't even thinking about anything stressful.
[00:28:22] Speaker B: Were you watching Dancing with the Stars or anything like that?
[00:28:25] Speaker A: I don't even think I had my love island no, no TV on. Actually, you're making fun of me because of my TV choices.
Anyway, so I thought, well, okay, I'm stressed. That's ridiculous. So I thought, I got to do something to start calming down and coming off that stress level. So I wrote everybody that's coming to the seat at the table in two weeks. I sent them invites or not invites, but just a little text reminder.
[00:28:53] Speaker B: Yeah, that one you sent me at midnight.
[00:28:55] Speaker A: It wasn't midnight.
8:30.
And my stress level literally plummeted down to relax.
[00:29:05] Speaker B: That's crazy.
[00:29:06] Speaker A: Which only shows. I mean, this has been my new thing now since my mom died. And I got so much. My body just reacted so negatively to the grief. That really does. Stress really affects what you love does lower what you. Yeah. And being happy and doing something that makes you happy really lowered my stress level.
[00:29:25] Speaker B: Like, I wish I would have had that on just to see. Because it's curious that you said that, because the other day, you know, I made myself make my dogs those collars. Like, I was like, you know, that's it. I'm doing what I got to do to do. Because, like, I love being crazy creative. Like, that really is my. I love that. And I remember I was sitting there and I just got into making them, and I was like, man, this is. I'm really chill right now. I remember that going through my mind. Like, I'm really happy putting my colors together, creating this and how, you know. And then next thing you knew, I. Daisy had three necklaces.
You know, Skippy had his one, and I'm like, okay, I'm gonna make another one. It just was making me happy. So I would really have liked to have known what I actually.
[00:30:08] Speaker A: What it did to you.
[00:30:09] Speaker B: What it did to my. Yeah, that would be interesting to know.
[00:30:12] Speaker A: Well, I mean, last night was huge for me because I already know that. I already know what it does to your body. I mean, I've learned so much this year about cortisol levels and stress levels, and it really does affect your health negatively. And I'm not. I'm 100% convinced that I was going through a really stressful period when I was diagnosed with cancer. And I'm not. No one's going to convince me otherwise. That. That isn't something that triggered the cancer. I do think our bodies respond negatively to stress and our environment. I mean, look, how many of us.
[00:30:43] Speaker B: Have had a nervous breakdown and really don't even know it because we just had to keep going. Honestly, like, how many of us have gone through.
[00:30:50] Speaker A: I think I Don't know a lot of us.
But last night was truly telling to me about how you can really be affected by your environment and what's around you. And even though I didn't know what was stressing me out, I didn't feel like I was stressed. My body was showing stress, which is what the oura ring was picking up on. And then the fact that me sending out the text messages and then hearing back from everybody and everybody talking about how excited they were to be there. Except for you. You didn't talk about how excited. You didn't talk about how excited you were. Yeah, it's like, that's cute.
[00:31:21] Speaker B: I complimented how cute. Everybody else probably dealing with other problems at home.
[00:31:26] Speaker A: Anyway, I. I mean, to see the. The scale was huge.
[00:31:30] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:31:31] Speaker A: So that's interesting. Which is kind of the whole point of me doing this is because it just makes me happy. It just. I love entertaining. I love the creative side of it. I love that I'm practicing napkin folds to decide which napkin fold I want. I love the whole concept. I loved ordering the gifts that I'm giving out. I loved. Like, that makes me so happy. And so the whole point of this is just connection. I also going back to, like, your dad and Covid.
We. I think we're all just missing true connection with people. I think we're all so busy. The world is so crazy. There's so much negativity that I think we're all craving it. And that's my whole goal, is I want it to just be a really peaceful, calm night where we just get to know people that we don't know, because I don't know anybody else coming. And that's what's going to be fun, is that you're actually going to meet some really cool people that you don't know. And it's just going to be really relaxing and chill. And I want it just to be so comfortable, and everybody just feels like it's exciting. They can take a deep breath and just enjoy the night. And that's.
[00:32:37] Speaker B: So what's going to make sweatpants?
[00:32:39] Speaker A: You can. You can wear whatever. You can wear your pajamas.
[00:32:42] Speaker B: Make everybody wear sweats. Like, that's just a. Everybody wears sweats.
[00:32:46] Speaker A: Not a bad idea. Yeah.
[00:32:47] Speaker B: Nobody feels like they have to get stressed to get maybe sweats and makeup. So we all feel like we're going.
[00:32:52] Speaker A: So you feel like you're doing something? Yeah, I just. People that have asked me what they wear, I'm like, wear whatever you're comfortable in. It's not about being dressed up and fancy, and so it's just. I'm excited.
[00:33:04] Speaker B: Well, I'm excited. I think it'll be good, man. I've never gone to anything like that before, so I think it's exciting.
[00:33:09] Speaker A: It's going to be fun.
[00:33:10] Speaker B: Way to go, Lisa.
[00:33:12] Speaker A: Yeah, well, we're out of time. We're way over time, actually, we were on that note. Too busy talking.
[00:33:17] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:33:17] Speaker A: So we'll see you guys next week.
[00:33:19] Speaker B: Yes, I am. Bye.
